Introvert

[element0]

As it relates to game, being an introvert can be a deadly double edged weapon. On one hand it seems alpha, as you are not socially needy. But on the other hand it can seem beta as you don't care to be overly social.

I've had women tell me that they felt like I didn't need them. My ex couldn't understand how I could go to the movies by myself. I told her, why not? I'm not there talking to someone, I'm sitting in the dark watching a movie?

Throw in the fact that I'm a classic Virgo (not that i believe in astrology, but I do fit the criteria of a classic virgo) and INTJ and well....it has hurt my game in the past.

Same here, I feel like I have the aura of mystery that women find attractive. I don't reveal very much, but then I'll kill it by never revealing anything. And I always have to force myself into situations where there are other people to interact with.

A year ago I was going to school full time, working part time, and living by myself. I remember going days at a time without speaking to anyone at all. It was a frightening when I realized I had not spoken a word to another human being in days. I haven't done that in a while.

I'm an INTJ as well....it's a blessing and a curse.

 

[Tortendieb]

Same here, I feel like I have the aura of mystery that women find attractive. I don't reveal very much, but then I'll kill it by never revealing anything. And I always have to force myself into situations where there are other people to interact with.

A year ago I was going to school full time, working part time, and living by myself. I remember going days at a time without speaking to anyone at all. It was a frightening when I realized I had not spoken a word to another human being in days. I haven't done that in a while.

I'm an INTJ as well....it's a blessing and a curse.

Spot on, same here bro. I just wonder, why do you/we think this is a bad thing? If this is our natural alignment why can't we be happy with it?

Apparently our tendency to be alone alot conflicts with our goals of having lots of sex. Or going through a lot of girls in order to find the one, if that's your goal.

So it seems that we can get what we want only by fighting against what we are - a very frightening thought! Isn't it supposed to be easy, instead of a bitter fight every day? Something really doesn't fit in my head...

P.S.: "Just be yourself" also conflicts with "You have to make a change", implying "You don't like your current self", which is why many of us are here...

 

[FairShake]

P.S.: "Just be yourself" also conflicts with "You have to make a change", implying "You don't like your current self", which is why many of us are here...

Be the best version of yourself.

Don't put on a fake front by dressing in fuzzy hats or insulting everyone. I'm sure we're all too old for that. Besides, if it's not you it will NEVER work. But if you aren't happy being an introvert than it's not you and you should open up a little more.