Hi, let me tell you a little about myself- I may be one of the oldest person on this site - married twice, am currently single. I have been blessed with good genetics - I am 48, however, I look 10 years younger – I have a boyish look, plus, I am lean and muscular with a 6 pack. I recently dated HB 8 who was 27 ( I couldn’t handle the age difference and broke up with her). I am also blessed with rhythm – I am Advanced/Intermediate Salsa, Bachata, Hustle,ChaCha, dancer. Women will seek me out to dance with. So I manage to get into relationships and dates because of this fact. If it wasn’t for dance I’d still be a virgin ! Women my age love me! But I mostly date women in there mid 30’s. I do ok. However, after reading this forum for awhile – I realize, I am your typical AFC ! It is rare for me to land the woman that I am really attracted too – the ones that I really want. One girl that I fell deeply in love with – I made every mistakes that are in the DJ bible !! I got the LJBF ! And I am currently fighting a big case of One-itus ! But, I’m following all the advise I have read here and broke contact with her…Now I have a question for the forum,, what does it mean when women tell you that “her heart has been broken and doesn’t think she can ever love again”. I get this all the time – and I can’t think of a good response. I’m glad I found this forum – I already have leaned so much. Thanks
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Men and women do it, not just women.MamboMan said:
This usually comes after breaking up with someone.
“her heart has been broken and doesn’t think she can ever love again”.
In all honesty, if this was said to me, i'd flip it around and say this back "We'll you'd better be careful round me then" And toss her a smile.
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It means she just recently got out of a LTR, and that's all. She WILL love again. All women do. They thrive on emotion, both the good and the bad. All she's doing is speaking about her emotional state, so don't take it as a logical statement of her being permanently finished with relationships.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Firstly - the long version of the 'womanspeek' translation goes like this, " You are a nice enough guy but you are not 'sparking me' - however I like having you available as a casual dance partner. I could LJBF you, but that might push you away, so instead I am going to give you the- " I have a broken heart" story because that might keep you around in the hope that you can 'fix' me... That way I still get to dance with you, and I can use you when it suits me. If you get too close I can always tell you about how 'wounded' I still am to keep you at arm's length. "MamboMan said:
The short version, " You and I are never going to be doing any horizontal mambo, mister."
Secondly - This statement from a woman is essentially a rejection in disguise. She is suggesting that the reason that she is unavailable is because of her emotional brokenness - therefore she is in no condition to date you or sleep with you.
Truth is , she is just not attracted to you.
Your best response is to either walk away before you are exploited any further, or LJBF her on the spot .
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Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
MAMBO, put an age on your profile. Read the forum rules.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Something is terribly wrong here^^MamboMan said:
I have been involved with Latin and Blrm dance for 20 years, and good dancers have their choice of women. IT is the only social setting in which men are in higher demand than women by weight of numbers and by skill.
So you broke up because you could not handle the age difference ? Or was it her ditsy behavior ?