Hi, let me tell you a little about myself- I may be one of the oldest person on this site - married twice, am currently single. I have been blessed with good genetics - I am 48, however, I look 10 years younger – I have a boyish look, plus, I am lean and muscular with a 6 pack. I recently dated HB 8 who was 27 ( I couldn’t handle the age difference and broke up with her). I am also blessed with rhythm – I am Advanced/Intermediate Salsa, Bachata, Hustle,ChaCha, dancer. Women will seek me out to dance with. So I manage to get into relationships and dates because of this fact. If it wasn’t for dance I’d still be a virgin ! Women my age love me! But I mostly date women in there mid 30’s. I do ok. However, after reading this forum for awhile – I realize, I am your typical AFC ! It is rare for me to land the woman that I am really attracted too – the ones that I really want. One girl that I fell deeply in love with – I made every mistakes that are in the DJ bible !! I got the LJBF ! And I am currently fighting a big case of One-itus ! But, I’m following all the advise I have read here and broke contact with her…Now I have a question for the forum,, what does it mean when women tell you that “her heart has been broken and doesn’t think she can ever love again”. I get this all the time – and I can’t think of a good response. I’m glad I found this forum – I already have leaned so much. Thanks
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Introduction and Question Concerning Women?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Men and women do it, not just women.MamboMan said:
This usually comes after breaking up with someone.
“her heart has been broken and doesn’t think she can ever love again”.
In all honesty, if this was said to me, i'd flip it around and say this back "We'll you'd better be careful round me then" And toss her a smile.
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It means she just recently got out of a LTR, and that's all. She WILL love again. All women do. They thrive on emotion, both the good and the bad. All she's doing is speaking about her emotional state, so don't take it as a logical statement of her being permanently finished with relationships.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Firstly - the long version of the 'womanspeek' translation goes like this, " You are a nice enough guy but you are not 'sparking me' - however I like having you available as a casual dance partner. I could LJBF you, but that might push you away, so instead I am going to give you the- " I have a broken heart" story because that might keep you around in the hope that you can 'fix' me... That way I still get to dance with you, and I can use you when it suits me. If you get too close I can always tell you about how 'wounded' I still am to keep you at arm's length. "MamboMan said:
The short version, " You and I are never going to be doing any horizontal mambo, mister."
Secondly - This statement from a woman is essentially a rejection in disguise. She is suggesting that the reason that she is unavailable is because of her emotional brokenness - therefore she is in no condition to date you or sleep with you.
Truth is , she is just not attracted to you.
Your best response is to either walk away before you are exploited any further, or LJBF her on the spot .
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Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
MAMBO, put an age on your profile. Read the forum rules.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Something is terribly wrong here^^MamboMan said:
I have been involved with Latin and Blrm dance for 20 years, and good dancers have their choice of women. IT is the only social setting in which men are in higher demand than women by weight of numbers and by skill.
So you broke up because you could not handle the age difference ? Or was it her ditsy behavior ?