"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Introducing friends to Sosuave

asdfghjkl

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Hey everyone i just wanted to know who introduced their friends to Sosuave because i was thinking about doing it. However, i have a feeling that my friends will dissaprove of it even though their all AFC:rolleyes:

should i give it a try anyway so maybe i can have a decent wing?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Don't show it to anyone unless they ask. You can't change someone until they want to be changed.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Major AFC move to show them just because you're getting something out of it. Like flexion said, don't mention it unless they ask whether there is a source of information on the net to help them out of their AFC ways. Like he said, you won't be able to make them change; they would need to want to change on their own.
 

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I agree with the above posts. Plus, you dont need possible rivals if you know what I mean...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Rebound Material said:
I agree with the above posts. Plus, you dont need possible rivals if you know what I mean...

Yeah, Rivals def suck. lol. I tried to explain this to my one friend who's really good with girls. He's just quiet. He's banged 9-10 girls so far in highschool. Compared too my zero. And he still says I have much better game then him. We agreed that I can open the deal far better than him, and he sucks at that. While he can close the deal far easier than me, and I suck at that.



"Inside every player lies the grave of a nice naive guy killed by heartache." - Wee WIlly

"I'll be the boy you can't resist and your just one of ten girls on my list."

Those 2 quotes pretty much sum up my view on women now.
 

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remember: if you invite your friends on here, then they can see what you write... which may not always be a great thing.
 

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well, the reason i even say that in the first place is cause me friend gets lots of girls, however he has no game and is just very goodlooking. He gets girlfriends but loses them in like a week by LJBFs. I wanna help him, but now that i think about it, hes probably too arrogant to use this site. O well, i just hate goin solo :down:
 

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Flying solo DOES suck, however if you're confident in your own game and self-esteem you'd quickly realize that not everyone can be perfect. By what you've written...he has his "goodlooks", and by what I've read...you have your "charm". Some people prefer flying solo because of not having to depend on anybody to "back you up", but having someone with you can really boost your game, as long as you two can work together as a team, and definitly no **** blocking. But if he turns out to be a total ***, than you're screwed my friend... Goodluck and Godspeed.
 

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asdfghjkl said:
well, the reason i even say that in the first place is cause me friend gets lots of girls, however he has no game and is just very goodlooking. He gets girlfriends but loses them in like a week by LJBFs. I wanna help him, but now that i think about it, hes probably too arrogant to use this site. O well, i just hate goin solo :down:
You're sitting on a goldmine. If this guy draws them in because he's goodlooking, but is an afc otherwise, he's the perfect wingman almost as is already.

Use him as an intro factor, and then play upon his weaknesses by admiring them in front of the women. For example, if he's so friendly that he always ends up in the LJBF zone, openly admire him for his ability to always put friendship before sex. If you make it look like his weaknesses with women are your goals without ****blocking him....you're golden.

Of course, I'm assuming you're actually good friends with the dude, so it shouldn't be hard to play him up anyway. Good faith. Always does you good too. Karma.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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river105 said:
remember: if you invite your friends on here, then they can see what you write... which may not always be a great thing.
hahaha.... why don't you want people to look at what you write here?
 

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amoka said:
hahaha.... why don't you want people to look at what you write here?
because they might just use it against you if you guys happen to end up in REALLY bad terms. For example, they just might tell chicks/everyone that you've been using a "I need help with women cuz Im a total loser" to go and ruin you...
 

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Tell them if you want, but don't expect them to necessarily care. Not because this is super subversive, underground information, that aspect is over rated, but because they probably just won't be interested in becoming hardcore players.

Not everyone cares about this stuff. It's like trying to introduce people to anything you like, a new game, t.v. show, etc. Lots of people just aren't keen on joining in.
 

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I've given all the on hand information pertaining to this type of stuff to one of my friends and he doesn't even look at. He's in-love with a girl who's verbally told him she doesn't want to be with him. So telling your friend about this site will only be a waist of time on your part.

He has to go through heartbreak in order to open his eyes. Heartbreak is like complete muscle failure, once the muscle heals, it heals stronger. Apply that to the heart and you'll see what i mean.
 

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Remember what experience brought you here?
They need to experience it or they won't want to change.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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