I have been dating this girl for a couple of months and have only gotten to make out briefly with her. Her interest level seems to be waning (fewer calls, fewer text messages and broke off the kiss last time). I've gone out with her 7+ times now. My b-day is coming up and I'm having 11-12 friends who are going to come out with me to a restaurant\bar to celebrate. I also invited her and she said she would be free after work to come. I'm not exactly an alpha in this group though not exactly a completely silent loner either. They're all fairly good friends. Several of the guys are more charismatic, more attractive but their girlfriends will be there and they would never hit on her. Is there any chance seeing me in this element can increase an already waning IL? I'm not sure why her IL is waning except that maybe she has become interested in another guy. Well, regardless, what do you guys think???
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Introducing a woman to your friends?
- Thread starter DJorBUST
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Is she's interested in other guys, she ain't interested in you, bud.
WHy do you want a chick that has the potential for going after other guys?
Why do you want a chick that doesn't want you?
"uh....'cause she's hawt...and stuff? And she makes me feel worthy and important?"
I see it now.
I think I can bet the farm on that one.
WHy do you want a chick that has the potential for going after other guys?
Why do you want a chick that doesn't want you?
"uh....'cause she's hawt...and stuff? And she makes me feel worthy and important?"
I see it now.
I think I can bet the farm on that one.
I said maybe her waning IL has to do with liking another guy. I didn't say I know this for sure or have seen her with another guy or she's mentioned another guy. I was speculating....jeebus. Why don't you try commenting on the question I had?
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Look,bud.
She's got low IL. She's not clling you , or texting you.Or kissing you.Yet YOU STILL WANT HER!!!
You've "been dating" for MONTHS??? And only recently have "made out" with her???? Bro....
Dude...wtf....are you blind?
What do you want me to say??
Yes, DJOB, she will immediately fall in love with you, and throw herslef at your feet,. You're "The ONE" for her, forever!!!
Dude, your ship is sinking, The rats are swimming away. And you're trying to "salvage": this sinking ship. And to add, you're putting her in a social situation where she will size you up against your competition.And dude, don't think for a second your Bros won't bang this chick if she offered.
DjoB, waning IL is a SIGN, man. It's time to move on.
A girl in love ciommunicates.A girl in love acts as IN LOVE with her man.
What part do you not understand???
I ask again, why are you wanting a chick WHO DOES NOT WANT YOU??
Why are there guys like you???
Look at her actions, dude.
No contact. No physical intimacy!
FFS, what more do you want?
A TV commercial telling you she's bored and gone emotionally and physically from you??
Look, I know you're frustrated.
But I'm not going to lie to you.
It looks bad. And you can't accept it.
You have no other options right now. And she's the hottest chick you've "been" with.
It's tough, man. It is.
But wishful thinking, rationalizing,and wanting to hear what you want, NOT what you NEED is wrong.
She's got low IL. She's not clling you , or texting you.Or kissing you.Yet YOU STILL WANT HER!!!
You've "been dating" for MONTHS??? And only recently have "made out" with her???? Bro....
Dude...wtf....are you blind?
What do you want me to say??
Yes, DJOB, she will immediately fall in love with you, and throw herslef at your feet,. You're "The ONE" for her, forever!!!
Dude, your ship is sinking, The rats are swimming away. And you're trying to "salvage": this sinking ship. And to add, you're putting her in a social situation where she will size you up against your competition.And dude, don't think for a second your Bros won't bang this chick if she offered.
DjoB, waning IL is a SIGN, man. It's time to move on.
A girl in love ciommunicates.A girl in love acts as IN LOVE with her man.
What part do you not understand???
I ask again, why are you wanting a chick WHO DOES NOT WANT YOU??
Why are there guys like you???
Look at her actions, dude.
No contact. No physical intimacy!
FFS, what more do you want?
A TV commercial telling you she's bored and gone emotionally and physically from you??
Look, I know you're frustrated.
But I'm not going to lie to you.
It looks bad. And you can't accept it.
You have no other options right now. And she's the hottest chick you've "been" with.
It's tough, man. It is.
But wishful thinking, rationalizing,and wanting to hear what you want, NOT what you NEED is wrong.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
DJoB, what is it about this woman that attracts you besides her looks?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Alphamale1821
Senior Don Juan
more importanlty why have you took this chick out 7 times and you have yet to **** her. Yeah her interest is going to drop because it sounds like your not man enough to take her and fuuck her. Unless you can drastically improve soon drop the chick and learn from your mistakes and get better game.