Intro to someone who might become successful

[Distant Light]

Hi

I am here trying to start over. I am now dedicated to being better at getting girls. After reading about the many people here that have had much success. I want to be part of this and also be able to help people.

First thing i need to figure out is what exactly is keeping me back. I used to think its my looks but after thinking about how many people was attracted to me or had liked me it came up to about 43 different women. (missed probably 20 more that i can't think of) I knew for a fact that all 43 of these girls i could have got them. So i finally realize i am actually a pretty good looking guy.

Few things I am good at...
1.Kino
This is probably my strongest area. I have realized this is a very powerful skill have made a girl attracted to me just by kino but when her friend said the girl wanted to switch numbers i never said anything and i did like her.

2.Eye contact
This is another skill that i am good at. For some reason my eye contact seems very powerful to me. Everytime i look eyes with a girl it seems like she instantly gets attracted after looking at each other for more than 2 seconds.

Final word
I have thought about doing gunwitch method which i have tryed many times and got some surprising remarks such as girls wanting to touch and see my meat. many girls i didn't know were also giving off a positive vibe.

Few things that i could think of that might be hold me back...

1. No good at conversations
I am a bit bad at having interesting conversations with women. Lately I have been getting alittle better at it. Been able to hold conversations with many girls that i know. There are those times though where i just happen to say the right things to get the girl juices flowing.

2. I am not the first one to get sexual or even taking it to the next level. I haven't asked a girl for there number for awhile now. Sometimes makes me wonder if the girl needs to sign that says "I want you" for me to step it up. It is like a roadblock i do all this crap and then just stop and then they move on.

3. Need to stop masturbating basically when i dont masturbate my conversations seem to be better .

4. Stop worrying on how the women would react to whatever i do or say.

What i want to become?
I want to be the guy who gets any women that he desires doesn't matter their. Have multiple women and also having a good time with them. Able to help out my friends and give them tips and help them out at getting more girls.
Have fun being each others wingmen and experiencing many fun and good things. Friends coming asking me for advice.

I now will follow this light that is a few distance away. I must first overcome these obstacles. Meanwhile i am also getting other parts of my life together and finding more hobbies to make my life more interesting and fun.

 

[Heyjose25points]

Welcome to Sosuave dude.

 

[So pimp its scary]

AWESOME!!!

Welcome to the board. This is the type of intro that I love to see, and I'd say that you are already two or three steps ahead of alot of the people on this site.

I mean, you know your strengths and your weaknesses.

The first frame of mind that would be helpful to develop right now, at this instant is one of 'this girl is not the one, she is the practice so that I'll be ready when I encounter the one.'

The gunwhich method of approaching the lone wolf, and being in a sexual state... I've used this before (or my variation), and it is good. For me, it became like a switch, where I'd be chatting with my buddy and I'd lock eyes with some dirty across the room... then the switch would go to 'on' and I would excuse myself and approach.

1. Ok, one thing about conversation that is important is not so much the what you say, but the how you say it and your body language as well. You can talk a confident game all you want, but if your all fidgety and nervous looking you will be called on your BS.... It's actually happened to me in my early days... anyway,

As far as conversation topics go, it's more just about the what not to talk about : Work, family, science fiction, video games, etc. Unless of course the woman brings up these things.

2. Let's use a woman's perspective on this one : Let's say that a woman really wants you at this very second if you would only say hi to her. The woman really wants you to go up and approach, but won't do it herself because if you DON"T DO IT, YOU ARE NOT THE KIND OF MAN SHE IS LOOKING FOR ANYWAY!!!

Women take care of all the relationship aspects (says 'i love you' first, initiates the conversation of bf/gf, makes sure that you are satisfied in the relationship, etc). Men on the other hand are meant to take all the risks (approach, #close, fclose, marriage proposal).

Read this over and over untill it sinks in.

3. LMFAO... do what works for you, but there have been times where, even though I was sexing up this girl about 3-4 times a day, I would still find the time and the inclination to toot my own horn...

4. What exactly are you worried about with the way women act? How is a woman going to act that will justify your worry? What is the worst possible thing that could happen for approaching a woman ? (I've had a few rough ones myself, and I've survived them all) How do women react to you that makes you worry so much?

When I first came to this site, it was pretty sad (by todays standards)... but I stuck through the toughness of breaking out of the shell. I had met this guy around the same time that I found this website, and I only talked to him a couple times then a year passed... I ran into the guy again and he said 'Wow, look at you, last time I saw you you were all shy and now you've grown some confidence.'

Having someone point that out is definately one of the greatest feelings I've had. Then there was my time in university, where I was following my mission to meet 1 new girl everysingle day, no exceptions... It took about 2-3 weeks before I started having people ask me what my secret is.

Good to see a new face that's got great potential...

 

[Distant Light]

I really like the things you just pointed out. Helped me a lot.

The first frame of mind that would be helpful to develop right now, at this instant is one of 'this girl is not the one, she is the practice so that I'll be ready when I encounter the one.'

I would always do this on girls that i already knew and would think the girl has no interest of me. But all the practiced turned into the real thing lol. So like i said in my first post i was never able to step it up with those girls so most of them basically gave up.

1. Ok, one thing about conversation that is important is not so much the what you say, but the how you say it and your body language as well. You can talk a confident game all you want, but if your all fidgety and nervous looking you will be called on your BS.... It's actually happened to me in my early days... anyway

What exactly is some positive body language. I usually kinda walk and sit like how that one guy in that alpha male video. I laughed so much on how he would move an how it really was alpha looking lol. That i out of no where always played around and now its a habit for me to walk like that. Many people have notice i walk different one kid said i walk like if i'm from the wild wild west.

Men on the other hand are meant to take all the risks (approach, #close, fclose, marriage proposal).

I have to start taking risks cause i take none at all when comes to girls.

3. LMFAO... do what works for you, but there have been times where, even though I was sexing up this girl about 3-4 times a day, I would still find the time and the inclination to toot my own horn...

lmao i want to stop lol cause wastes so much of my time and i become tired sometimes and hardier for me to get it up or be more sexual.

4. What exactly are you worried about with the way women act?

I think i am worried about how the react. Don't want to get turned down badly. Such as your too ugly or anything tha can lower my morale towards getting girls. I must say i had way more positive reactions and comments than harsh or negative reactions or comments.

It took about 2-3 weeks before I started having people ask me what my secret is.

lol i know how good you must of felt awhile back had to choose between two girls who were kinda in competetion to be with me. They were both friends and being that i was so inexperience i didn't really know what the hell to do ended up going out with one. An i was still close with the other. Would look like i'm so pimp to other people. An one kid who liked one the girls pulled me to the side was like "Distant How do you do it?" "All the girls like you and none like me." at the time i just told him stop being so nice. If i knew what i knew now i would have been able to school him on how to go about things and he could have been my wingman. Another time during this year i used to mess with all the girls one the girls called me a pick up artist and that all the girls want me.

But in reality i'm no pick up artist havent really got a girl for about 5-6 months now.

I shall change though by end of this year i know for sure i will be somewhat good.

 

[mrRuckus]

Originally posted by Distant Light


3. Need to stop masturbating basically when i dont masturbate my conversations seem to be better .

Yeah my conversations go better too when i'm not fondling myself mid-conversation.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Please don't think of me as some pick up artist... I'm not quite that good, although when an opportunity presents itself I'm typically able to approach and make something of the encounter.

Anyway, why would you allow the woman to get to the point of 'giving up' on you? Like you wouldn't make a move untill the woman decided that you aren't going to make a move and are in friendzone??

About the body language thing, positive body language is more about showing that you are comfortable in your own skin, and comfortable talking too her. What's more important than having good bodylanguage is having body language that is congruent with the words that you use.

Well, I hate getting rejected as much as the next guy, but what do you think will happen say 50 years from now if you continue on not taking the risks as far as women go? How bad of a reaction would make you feel worried? If the woman says 'no I have a boyfriend' would that lower your morale? How about if the woman says 'You're too ugly fvck off' would that lower your morale? Or how about if the woman says 'yes' to your approach would that lower your morale?

So, when a woman gives you a bad reaction, does it always lower your morale?

 

[Distant Light]

So, when a woman gives you a bad reaction, does it always lower your morale?

well lately it hasn't because now i just laugh at myself. today was about to do a apporach just before i go in my house i was looking at her and she was looking at me. Then i tripped lol she had like a face as if she was laughing. Usually i would be like aww **** why did that happen now. But today i laughed not infront of her but i laughed. I am starting to not care what the girl thinks of me. What people thought about me was another big thing that used to hold me back and what my friends would think if they seen my girl would they say how the **** could you talk to her or just say negative things. Cause thats exactly what they did to my other friend saying jokes about his girl on a daily basis. After I thought about it i was like i'm the one who is having sex with them there not getting anything and hey maybe some of them may not be a hb7 or higher. I getting hb6's and up and your still wondering how i have all these girls.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Exactly, getting rejected only lowers your morale if you let it. A few of the nights where I was determined to get laid, it would take me getting shot down by at least 5-10 others before I'd start talking to the right girl.

Getting embarassed in certain situations is a good thing, I was sitting at this table in the mall food court one day, and it was pretty packed. There was a table real close to us that was being extremely loud and obnoxious, well, this one girl in particular. This black man that was sitting at the table next to her goes up and says to the girl "Don't you ever get embarassed about anything?"

"No, try me." The girl says without hesitation.

The man slaps his hands together, then covers his face stands up and shouts "RACIST!! RACIST!! She just slapped me in the face and called me a *igger!"

Before he had even finished saying that, the womans face just turned all dark shades of red and she sunk into herself. She didn't say a word untill they left.