"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dicc Blownoff

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So ever since I've been on Instagram or Snapchat or whatever I haven't really noticed this until now. How do those 8.5's and above get a bf? For example, I consider myself a 8.5-9 on my best day. 6'5" 215 lbs knows how to dress. I see these girls on SM websites occasionally hit em up and they ignore my messages. I understand they probably get several of these a day but how on earth do they ever get interested in a guy? Is it just like of bumping into them through friends or at a bar or something? I never understood that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Macaframalama

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So ever since I've been on Instagram or Snapchat or whatever I haven't really noticed this until now. How do those 8.5's and above get a bf? For example, I consider myself a 8.5-9 on my best day. 6'5" 215 lbs knows how to dress. I see these girls on SM websites occasionally hit em up and they ignore my messages. I understand they probably get several of these a day but how on earth do they ever get interested in a guy? Is it just like of bumping into them through friends or at a bar or something? I never understood that.
Chicks use snap and insta to boost their ego.
 
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So ever since I've been on Instagram or Snapchat or whatever I haven't really noticed this until now. How do those 8.5's and above get a bf? For example, I consider myself a 8.5-9 on my best day. 6'5" 215 lbs knows how to dress. I see these girls on SM websites occasionally hit em up and they ignore my messages. I understand they probably get several of these a day but how on earth do they ever get interested in a guy? Is it just like of bumping into them through friends or at a bar or something? I never understood that.
I haven't ever spent a lot of time on SM, but I knew one girl once who got with some rich dude who had like 4 exotic cars. And he would take her driving. Guy still looked like a pansy.
 

Dicc Blownoff

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But how would you even start a conversation with someone who has like 5k followers and is obviously popular? Get lucky and hopefully bump into them somewhere?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Augustus_McCrae

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But how would you even start a conversation with someone who has like 5k followers and is obviously popular? Get lucky and hopefully bump into them somewhere?
I think you’re kind of answering your own question. They are just attention wh0ring online.

And by contacting them online, you’re just another orbiter. It sounds like in your case, you would do better in person.

-Augustus-
 

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Chicks like attention from any man, if you just give it to them for no reason you have identified yourself as a worthless man, willing to trade your ONLY commodity a man has with a chick for NOTHING. Social media is for friends and family, not chicks.
 
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