Intrested girl just won't budge after fight...need advice

[Touchout]

Now when I post here I'm not usually one to ask for advice but this time I just partly need to vent and partly want some other opinions on what I should do here.

So this girl that has been interested in me for a long time (like 6+ months now) came home from college break this week. My college is local enough for me to go back and forth, and the week before she was coming home she kept saying how she wanted to see me so bad.

Well on Saturday I was at a house party and in a not great mood and she shows up because my friend invited her. I have to admit, I kinda froze up and only talked to her for a few minutes, then left to play Guitar Hero (lol). A minute later she's in the room hardcore flirting with me and grabbing my eyes, showing huge interest. At this point I remembered all I learned and started to flirt and kino, and she loved it.

I leave her for just few minutes and two extremely drunk girls come up and hit on me, she see's this and leaves quickly, barely taking the time to say goodbye.


I decided to let it rest for a few days when she contacts me on facebook, she **** tests me right there on facebook and I fail big time (oh gosh). Since then her entire attitude towards me has changed, no flirty text messages, no efforts to contact me, basically just had no IOI's.


She leaves back for school tomorrow, so obviously I can't do anything this break, but is there some way I can salvage this for winter break about a month away? I have some ideas but I want some outside opinions, thanks if you read all this and took to time to write back.

 

[Maxtro]

I decided to let it rest for a few days when she contacts me on facebook, she **** tests me right there on facebook and I fail big time (oh gosh).

Need more information.

 

[Touchout]

She said she was disappointed in me because when I saw her I didn't get excited and when she left I didn't get upset and that she can't stand the disappointment anymore.

I said that maybe I didn't express my excitement well enough and that if she wanted to see me again I would show more.

These weren't exact words, the real conversation made me sound a lot worse, I fcked up pretty bad.

She just responded by saying "k we can hang out again" and has been cold since

 

[Maxtro]

Hmm, I have no idea how to respond to that.

 

[BCOMusic]

I guess you supplicated a little bit with that but I don't really think it matters that much. Meet some other girls, thats the answer to every question.

For the future, if she says something like that over face book. well actually fck facebook u should delete oyur face book and aol that way you can only be reached face to face or by phone, at your discretion.



anyways
i would have called her and talked to her about it, but sincerly voiced how that situation made me felt.

Like

"You walked away after girls flirted with me, and so thats not my fault.....I can't help if a girl wants me, i didnt even talk to them, and you got jelous so how can you be mad at me.

Thats standing your ground, and being respectful about the confrontation.

I don't really worry to much about these so called **** tests as i do about how a situation makes me react. Then if the need arises, i can calmy and smoothly voice my opinion.

It has worked so far in keeping my ground with women, so try it out sometime see what ya think man.

other than that its all good like if she calls you or something or if you naturally see her, then mack her again. Girls come and go like crazy

 

[Touchout]

Thanks, thats kind of what I did over the phone, but she was so distant...flirting with her was just kind of like flirting with myself hah.

Trust me I have other options, it's just that this is a quality girl I want to keep in my life, and all I can think is that I blew the best chance of my life somehow...

Anyway I think I'm just not going to talk to her for a while and see if she just forgets about it and remembers what a cool guy I am instead. As for Facebook, I love it, there's no chance I would get rid of it because not only can I keep in touch with old friends but I can flirt pretty safely with new girls without them rejecting it.

 

[DJDamage]

She said she was disappointed in me because when I saw her I didn't get excited and when she left I didn't get upset and that she can't stand the disappointment anymore.

THAT WAS POSITIVE FEEDBACK!, it was a sh1t test and you failed. Always pay attention to what a woman does not say. The fact that it bothers her that you act all aloof and wants to know why is because she is intrigued.

I said that maybe I didn't express my excitement well enough and that if she wanted to see me again I would show more..

Yep you did fvck it up. Now she KNOWS you weren't acting aloof but you do like her and you are acting like a d1ck on purpose. You got to be more subtle and never give a woman a direct response, vagueness is your friend not an enemy.