"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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intimidated to talk to me

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an older girl tells one of her friends shes intimidated to talk to me, is this a good or bad thing
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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All that means is you gotta do is talk to her first. Problem solved right?

I deal with this on a daily basis man, if you saw me and saw the super-white town im in you'd know why lol. I'm a fairly large dude, I'm like a walking code orange threat alert.

Sometimes you gotta make the contact first and let em know you're cool. Your reason for this is likely different from mine. It's life.
 

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Originally posted by requested
an older girl tells one of her friends shes intimidated to talk to me, is this a good or bad thing
Ask her.
 
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