"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Interview: Take an Item to Reflect my Personality

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I have been asked to take something to an interview that reflects my personality. The job is for a freshers rep, where i will be looking after and co-ordinating the new freshers at university. Great way 2 meet women!

Any ideas on what would be good to take to the interview?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WhitePimp

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If it was me I'd take my iPod. I have stories about every single band on there that somehow played some important role at some point in my life and the diversity of the bands on there (metal, country, pop, jazz, funk, classical and not just topical bands either, I go balls deep into all these genres and have some real obscure and deep sh!t) reflects how diverse my personality and interests are.
 

Luthor Rex

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This is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard of.

I would probably take nothing and say something like "I brought nothing because nothing can represent the complexities of my personality or of who I am. I am me, and you need to either hire me or not hire me, but I refuse to play your stupid games."

At which point I would not be hired...
 

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WhitePimp said:
If it was me I'd take my iPod. I have stories about every single band on there that somehow played some important role at some point in my life and the diversity of the bands on there (metal, country, pop, jazz, funk, classical and not just topical bands either, I go balls deep into all these genres and have some real obscure and deep sh!t) reflects how diverse my personality and interests are.
Thats an interesting idea, i like the fact that i could show how compatible i am with other people by showing the interviewer my diverse range of music.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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CaptainJ

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Luthor Rex said:
This is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard of.

I would probably take nothing and say something like "I brought nothing because nothing can represent the complexities of my personality or of who I am. I am me, and you need to either hire me or not hire me, but I refuse to play your stupid games."

At which point I would not be hired...
I like this
 

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I'd bring a fruit.

Reason: because I'm a giver and unselfish instead of thinking what can represent me me me, I decided to bring something that represents you. :) ya FRUIT!
 

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Right now a crutch because you're asking people you don't know and who don't know you what to bring to describe yourself. I could go into how you need to take a real moment to reflect on who you are, but that would take too long. The short answer is that you can take anything to the interview. The thing they are looking for is if you can sell yourself. What you bring in doesn't matter: it's if you can convince them what ever you're holding is a true reflection of you. It doesn't have to actually be what you see yourself as, but it's the fact that it's believeible. It may be a totally lie, but if they can see that you can persuade people with your words, you're in. I could take a collaspible tire iron to an interview and say that its me because its flexible but strong. It may not be me, but if I can produce in them the feeling that I possess those qualities, they'll hire me. So, to some it up, pick something a little less mundane than an Ipod, but concentrate more on selling you than what's in your hand.
 

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Da Realist said:
Right now a crutch because you're asking people you don't know and who don't know you what to bring to describe yourself. I could go into how you need to take a real moment to reflect on who you are, but that would take too long. The short answer is that you can take anything to the interview. The thing they are looking for is if you can sell yourself. What you bring in doesn't matter: it's if you can convince them what ever you're holding is a true reflection of you. It doesn't have to actually be what you see yourself as, but it's the fact that it's believeible. It may be a totally lie, but if they can see that you can persuade people with your words, you're in. I could take a collaspible tire iron to an interview and say that its me because its flexible but strong. It may not be me, but if I can produce in them the feeling that I possess those qualities, they'll hire me. So, to some it up, pick something a little less mundane than an Ipod, but concentrate more on selling you than what's in your hand.
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