"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Interview: Take an Item to Reflect my Personality

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I have been asked to take something to an interview that reflects my personality. The job is for a freshers rep, where i will be looking after and co-ordinating the new freshers at university. Great way 2 meet women!

Any ideas on what would be good to take to the interview?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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WhitePimp

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If it was me I'd take my iPod. I have stories about every single band on there that somehow played some important role at some point in my life and the diversity of the bands on there (metal, country, pop, jazz, funk, classical and not just topical bands either, I go balls deep into all these genres and have some real obscure and deep sh!t) reflects how diverse my personality and interests are.
 

Luthor Rex

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This is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard of.

I would probably take nothing and say something like "I brought nothing because nothing can represent the complexities of my personality or of who I am. I am me, and you need to either hire me or not hire me, but I refuse to play your stupid games."

At which point I would not be hired...
 

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WhitePimp said:
If it was me I'd take my iPod. I have stories about every single band on there that somehow played some important role at some point in my life and the diversity of the bands on there (metal, country, pop, jazz, funk, classical and not just topical bands either, I go balls deep into all these genres and have some real obscure and deep sh!t) reflects how diverse my personality and interests are.
Thats an interesting idea, i like the fact that i could show how compatible i am with other people by showing the interviewer my diverse range of music.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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CaptainJ

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Luthor Rex said:
This is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard of.

I would probably take nothing and say something like "I brought nothing because nothing can represent the complexities of my personality or of who I am. I am me, and you need to either hire me or not hire me, but I refuse to play your stupid games."

At which point I would not be hired...
I like this
 

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I'd bring a fruit.

Reason: because I'm a giver and unselfish instead of thinking what can represent me me me, I decided to bring something that represents you. :) ya FRUIT!
 

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Right now a crutch because you're asking people you don't know and who don't know you what to bring to describe yourself. I could go into how you need to take a real moment to reflect on who you are, but that would take too long. The short answer is that you can take anything to the interview. The thing they are looking for is if you can sell yourself. What you bring in doesn't matter: it's if you can convince them what ever you're holding is a true reflection of you. It doesn't have to actually be what you see yourself as, but it's the fact that it's believeible. It may be a totally lie, but if they can see that you can persuade people with your words, you're in. I could take a collaspible tire iron to an interview and say that its me because its flexible but strong. It may not be me, but if I can produce in them the feeling that I possess those qualities, they'll hire me. So, to some it up, pick something a little less mundane than an Ipod, but concentrate more on selling you than what's in your hand.
 

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Da Realist said:
Right now a crutch because you're asking people you don't know and who don't know you what to bring to describe yourself. I could go into how you need to take a real moment to reflect on who you are, but that would take too long. The short answer is that you can take anything to the interview. The thing they are looking for is if you can sell yourself. What you bring in doesn't matter: it's if you can convince them what ever you're holding is a true reflection of you. It doesn't have to actually be what you see yourself as, but it's the fact that it's believeible. It may be a totally lie, but if they can see that you can persuade people with your words, you're in. I could take a collaspible tire iron to an interview and say that its me because its flexible but strong. It may not be me, but if I can produce in them the feeling that I possess those qualities, they'll hire me. So, to some it up, pick something a little less mundane than an Ipod, but concentrate more on selling you than what's in your hand.
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