"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My housemate left to go the gym with me and didn't say bye to his gf who was at our place.

'Thanks for not saying bye'

He received that text. Now it's nothing to do with me but I am interested in what she meant by this and what it is sub-communicating.

What would you guys response be? I'm guessing to not supplicate and say sorry.

I'm wondering if this could be her starting to rationalize taking some illogical action along the lines of 'he doesn't care about me it's over'.

Is it a warning sign, a **** test? Response?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Zarky

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Passive-aggressive attention getter

Women are very interested in controlling mens' behavior. Clearly the girl felt like her control over the guy had slid a tiny bit and she reacted that way.

What would you guys response be?
"Who is this?"

;)
 

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Has his GF been cr@ppy to him and thus he didn't say bye on purpose, or, did he just innocently forget?

This is a tactic I use sometimes when my woman does something that displeases me. No "bye", no "hugs", all those little things women have to have. Does wonders to make the woman reflect on her bad behavior, especially if you leave without saying bye and then ignore her texts/calls.
 

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The best response is no response. Simple. You don't respond. Her hamster will eventually spin itself to death.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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'Thanks for not saying bye'

Ignore.

When we date truly mature, chilled out, and un-emo women, who actually detest the drama too (yes, they are rare), we realise the rest of them stopped maturing at 18.
 

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She is training her pet.
She is testing the water to see if she can put his nuts in her purse or if he break his balls for no one.

First best reply: No reply
Second best reply: lol!
Third best reply: Don't get clingy?
 

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I don't know what he did but I saw her qualifying herself later on social media to him so musta worked.

I reckon he ignored. Fair play.
 

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I'd be too busy deciding what exercises to do for the body part I'm working out that day. Ignore, ignore, ignore.
 

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No response is best... otherwise if you feel like you have to say something, say "You're welcome."
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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