"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Demon Wolf

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I feel like I am interrogating people when I talk to them.
EX:

What's your major?
Why did you choose that?
How long have you lived here?
What position did you play?

THese are examples I got out of the DJB and from Dale Carnegie's book Winning Friends and influencing people.

By asking these questions I show interest, but I feel like I am being an interrogator and not being an enjoyable person to talk to.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dominicus

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i know exactly what you're saying, because i can be guilty of this some times.

if ever in a convo i start seeing myself as an interogator, i always try to change the subject so something funny/wierd. perhaps an odd observation and then going on from there. example: "Oh my God, the funniest/craziest/weirdest thing happened to me the other day!" or "Did you ever notice...?" or "You'll never believe this...."
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Stop asking questions without providing your own relative feedback. There's no such thing as a one way conversation.
 
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