"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Iamnotacrook

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Myspace, Facebook, lalalala you know, these things aren't much use for actually meeting people, but if you meet a chick in real life and the attraction is there, and then she turns out to be on one of these social networking sites, you can build some comfort there, so I've started building a social circle on Myspace that people will see when they visit my page.

Anyway, what would you do if an extremely low value male, who you haven't spoken to in years, goes and adds all the attractive girls off your page talking stuff like...

"just was writing to say hi and say wuzzup we need to talk bout us and why we havent hooked up yet.well hit me up when you get a chance and maybe we can work things out!"

weirded out girl: yet? o_O who r u?

"there is only one way to find out lol.just kidin i seen you on a friend that i use to go to school myspace [IAMNOTACROOK]!I thought i would send you a message!but hay I understand if you dont want to conversate with someone you dont know i am just trying to get to know different people and i seen you and you looked very attractive and i thought i would send you a message!So lets keep talkin and maybe one day we can meet!"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Frog X

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I think that reaching out to people you dont even know through myspace/facebook is weird, but thats just me.

Even though they are called social networking sites, I think the main usage they get is through people talking to their real friends or people they met somewhere.

Basically, it would be good for building rapport after the initial meeting, not as a way of having that initial meeting.
 

guywhoneedshelp

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I always manage to do this; when I meet a girl, I'll be talking to her, maybe a few days after meeting her, maybe on the phone or by text. Then I'll say something like 'Yea I'm at work just killin' time, playin' around on the Facebook.' Usually then she will say something like "oh you have facebook? add me!" Then because of Facebook encouraging people to update their statuses all the time, I usually end up seeing a status from her saying "is bored" in which I will have her hang out with me and show her a good time.
 

lalahaha

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block that extremely low value male from your profile, no need for old "friends" to try to drag you down, they want what you have without having to put in the work that you have done
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bible_Belt

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Every attractive woman on myspace will get messages like that; they should be used to it.

Just make a joke out the guy. Tell her he's a dateless wonder, but harmless.
 
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