"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Internet Pimping #2: what do i say now?

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This past saturday, I went to the b-day party of one of my friends. This party was full of drinking, and probably had 80 or more people at it within the course of the night.

HB 7 gives me a bunch of eye contact while she is dancing, however I am intoxicated and my ride was outside. So, I had to leave her despite recieving IOI's from her along with her friends. I feel devastated, but I really depended on that ride to get me back to my home safely(I didn't feel like hooking up that night anyways).

Luckily, she adds me on facebook. I recon it took her alot of work to find my page, and I was the ONLY person she added as a friend as a result of the party, so she must still be interested.

I decided to put the ball in her court once again by messaging her and saying:
"whats up, did you have a fun time at the party?"

She responds by saying:
"yeah it was soo much fun at Jason's party I thought you totally wouldnt recognize me since I didnt really meet you but Im glad we are friends now :)"

I am wondering what my next move to say would be, she is a HB7 who goes to a different university(half hour away) but lives in the area during the summer.

Thanks guys
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Invite her out for a coffee or something,don't just wait until the situation cools down.

"I'm going to [place where students hang out] for [activity students do (or coffee/tea/food whatever)] on [day],you should come along!"

something else to add if you like "we are friends and i know nothing about you"

Smells like fools mate to me, shouldn't be that hard.
 
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GloriouslyInsane said:
Invite her out for a coffee or something,don't just wait until the situation cools down.

"I'm going to [place where students hang out] for [activity students do (or coffee/tea/food whatever)] on [day],you should come along!"

something else to add if you like "we are friends and i know nothing about you"

Smells like fools mate to me, shouldn't be that hard.
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I'm not sure I want to ask her on a date right away!
 
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Why? You're not gonna pay her [whatever she orders].Just go there and bring along a book/whatever and study,if she flakes you had a coffee and studied,if she comes and it doesnt go well (i don't think this will happen but anw) you just gained back alot of time you would waste thinking about her/posting/calling/talking to friends about her or whatever.
If it goes well..yeah.

It's win-win-win.
 
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I would keep gaming her online for abit, get her on msn if you can. Work your DJ magic and fix a meet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok guys-
I responded saying:
i remembered seeing you at the party...plus you're friends with Jason on here. how is your summer going and are you still in the OC?

She said:
yeah Im having such a great summer and I actually live in irvine with my mom and sister so its pretty chill..if your in town we should alll hang out again, hows your summer going?


I am contemplating asking her to a coffee date to get to know her better, but she said that "we should all hang out again". Does that mean she wants to hang out in a group or 1vs1?
 
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Brak86 said:
in my experience, especially with internet/facebook dating, if you go out and ask for a 1on1 (ahaha you said 1 vs 1) she will deny it, even if she's attracted to you.

It's great news that she initiated hanging out again. Plan on going back to irvine in the coming weeks with your friends and when you do...message her again and ask for her number. It won't be threatening and will actually seem quite natural.

In fact, I bet she'll give you her number now if you just ask.

I just don't suggest going out and asking for a high pressure 1 on 1 date now, it might suddenly make her defensive and cautious.
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i told her i was in irvine and about my summer. i was vague to leave plenty of information if and when we meet up.

i gave her my number. why?
because i wanna test this and see how she reacts to it. my goal is to get a 1on1 at a coffee shop. she was the one who wanted to hang out, plus if i screw this one up....shes only a HB7 and i can get plenty more where that came from.

ill let u guys know how it goes
 
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