Internet dating

[sfalexi]

I'm very skeptical about internet dating, but I figured I'd give it a shot. We got along fine over the internet, and she had seen pics of my and kept telling me how "hot" I was, but never supplied any information or a picture of herself. Which kept me skeptical. So I suggested meeting as friends and didn't want to include the word "date" until I saw her.

I don't discriminate on any race, height, age, and other things. But the things that DO definitely keep me from wanting any relationships is if they have bad hair and/or are very overweight (past "slightly chubby"). I pride myself in being in decent shape and want someone that is the same way.

She was the "and" in the above stipulations.

Lesson learned. If you feel like trying internet dating, MAKE SURE TO GET A PICTURE at some point. Cause no matter WHAT, relationships require physical attraction of SOME level. And there was none here for me.

As for when she talks to me next, I'm gonna be upfront with her and tell her that she's not what I'm lookin' for. No sense in leading her on or playing games to blow her off.

Alexi

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by sfalexi
...Lesson learned. If you feel like trying internet dating, MAKE SURE TO GET A PICTURE at some point. Cause no matter WHAT, relationships require physical attraction of SOME level. And there was none here for me.

As for when she talks to me next, I'm gonna be upfront with her and tell her that she's not what I'm lookin' for. No sense in leading her on or playing games to blow her off.

Meeting people on the Net is a bit more involved than just seeing her picture, tons of threads in this forum covers them. However kudos to you by choosing to be up front with her.

 

[S0LID]

Alot of the girls i've met off the net know someone I know. That helps heaps. Rite now i have about 5 girls on my MSN I could meet. I see them nothing more than practise, and if anything else happens, it's a plus

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by S0LID
Alot of the girls i've met off the net know someone I know. That helps heaps. Rite now i have about 5 girls on my MSN I could meet. I see them nothing more than practise, and if anything else happens, it's a plus

The Net is good for practice. Don't forget that the goal it to set up a meeting, the sooner the better.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

Ive sought out, met, kissed, gotten head from, and ****ed a few girls from the internet.

How to attact them - have a good profile:
-Picture with only you
-Picture with you and a girl
-Picture with you at a party
-Fun information/stories on your infopage

Also - sending spam-mail to EVERY cute girl in your area is a GREAT way to work the #s game:

Subjectline: Hey <hername, as provided in profile>!
Email: Heya, Im <firstname>, I take it you are <hername, as provided>, its nice to make your aquaintance =)!

I was brousing <site nickname> when I stumbled upon your profile. You seem like a really BLANK, BLANK girl. I think it would be fun getting to know eachother, so email me back something fun and interesting - like your favorite color, how you spend a typical tuesday, and what song are you listening to, right now?

Talk to ya then!
-<first and last name>

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Meeting/dating people off line tends to run on 10 day cycles. If you go 10 days without increasing your level of communication, you will most likely NEVER increase your level of communication.

Emailing - on the 7-8th day inquire about a screen name
InstantChatting - on the 7-8th day say you need to sign off, but would like to continue talking with her, is there a number you can reach her at? If she says no, then wait 2 days, and then simply tell her you would like to put a voice with the attitude, and directly ask for the #. TELL HER EXACTLY WHEN TO EXPECT YOUR CALL... this way, she will not be "weirded out" and will in fact be ready to tlak to someone she has not met.
Calling - tell her exactly when you will make the first call. Give her a generalization as to when you will make the 2nd call. The second call should be 4-5 days after the first, and she should already have decided if she is going to meet you or not. Propose to meet over coffee. It is important to stay on the phone during the 1st and 2nd calls for a min of 45 min, max of 1:15 hrs/min. If by the spontanious 3rd call she refuses to meet, NEXT.

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Always demand a clear pic of the girls face. A recent pic of her that includes her body (not an ass shot, but something where you can judge her figure). A pic of her and some friends.

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me on myspace: http://profiles.myspace.com/users/11325585

 

[tyciol]

Damn, I fully agree with you... except I knew what she looked like beforehand and still went through with it. You know how they say the camera adds ten pounds? It's 10x the opposite.

 

[sfalexi]

Originally posted by tyciol
You know how they say the camera adds ten pounds? It's 10x the opposite.

lol. Sorry to hear man!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by TonyTheTigerOI
Ive sought out, met, kissed, gotten head from, and ****ed a few girls from the internet.

How to attact them - have a good profile:
-Picture with only you
-Picture with you and a girl
-Picture with you at a party
-Fun information/stories on your infopage

Also - sending spam-mail to EVERY cute girl in your area is a GREAT way to work the #s game:

Subjectline: Hey <hername, as provided in profile>!
Email: Heya, Im <firstname>, I take it you are <hername, as provided>, its nice to make your aquaintance =)!

I was brousing <site nickname> when I stumbled upon your profile. You seem like a really BLANK, BLANK girl. I think it would be fun getting to know eachother, so email me back something fun and interesting - like your favorite color, how you spend a typical tuesday, and what song are you listening to, right now?

Talk to ya then!
-<first and last name>

-------------

Meeting/dating people off line tends to run on 10 day cycles. If you go 10 days without increasing your level of communication, you will most likely NEVER increase your level of communication.

Emailing - on the 7-8th day inquire about a screen name
InstantChatting - on the 7-8th day say you need to sign off, but would like to continue talking with her, is there a number you can reach her at? If she says no, then wait 2 days, and then simply tell her you would like to put a voice with the attitude, and directly ask for the #. TELL HER EXACTLY WHEN TO EXPECT YOUR CALL... this way, she will not be "weirded out" and will in fact be ready to tlak to someone she has not met.
Calling - tell her exactly when you will make the first call. Give her a generalization as to when you will make the 2nd call. The second call should be 4-5 days after the first, and she should already have decided if she is going to meet you or not. Propose to meet over coffee. It is important to stay on the phone during the 1st and 2nd calls for a min of 45 min, max of 1:15 hrs/min. If by the spontanious 3rd call she refuses to meet, NEXT.

------------

Always demand a clear pic of the girls face. A recent pic of her that includes her body (not an ass shot, but something where you can judge her figure). A pic of her and some friends.

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me on myspace: http://profiles.myspace.com/users/11325585

Is getting together with women you meet online actually this difficult for you? Is it always this involved and complicated?

 

[Nightspark]

hah TonyTheTigerOI, it looks as if you're treating this simple thing of net-dating into a full-blown battlefield equipped with strategy...

there is no real strategy men!

And yes sfalexi has made an important point about dating and the physical attraction aspect. Just rememebr to get that picture and not expect anythin...

it's all a game of luck this net dating one...

 

[squirrels]

Amateur photography only, too. No glamour or touched-up shots.

 

[tyciol]

Or ones with the light so damn bright it erases most imperfections from visibility.

I don't want a perfect girl, just one who doesn't lie.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by squirrels
Amateur photography only, too. No glamour or touched-up shots.

Glamor Shot photos are evil. I never trust them unless they are full body shots.