That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why did you say that? Were you trying to tease her a bit, or something? That's fine, buy maybe you ought to invite her to meet with you so you can do that in person?Poonani Maker said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If my kids get homework...and they do it themselves...then they learn. Even if they get it wrong...at least they tried and learned.Mr.Positive said:
I've been thinking that some guys just need to crash and burn just to stress the importance of understanding what they are doing rather than just parroting some lines.Latinoman said:
Alright, that makes sense. Do you think this one will actually make the first move to offline?Poonani Maker said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well that's not the case on Myspace unless you keep everything restricted to emails. While it's sort of true you don't have the immediate distractions and interference online as in the field, there's probably even more other guys gaming the girl online than in the field.
MySpace isn't a dating site.ketostix said:
Scolding strangers doesn't work. You've just shown here you're a little uptight.
And again what exactly is your purpose for going through this?Poonani Maker said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
There you have it fellas! To be popular with women it's easier to seclude yourself and lift heavy thing for an entire year than learn how to create an attractive personality! :rockon:EFFORT said:
Well that's not stopping everyone from using it as such. And a lot of people think that's the beauty of it. It doesn't have the "pick up" atmosphere of dating sites.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
True but social networks have the highest concentration of attention wh0res that just want to have the most names on their friends list. At least most of the women on dating sites are willing to meet you sooner than later.ketostix said:
ketostix said:
So other than moving heavy things, what are you doing?
I think you guys should be mature enough to be able to have good, interesting, conversations with women without copying my words. I could be wrong.ketostix said:
She's right.Poonani Maker said:
In the name of all that is decent and holy, type a few sentences sentences about how you like meeting new people also, and then ask her if she'd like to meet up for a drink later this week!Poonani Maker said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Worst case, she asks for a pic. If so, send her one, and in the same email and ask how Thursday (or Friday) around 7PM is looking for her. At this point, just keep focusing on closing.Poonani Maker said:
Dude. No. Just close her.Poonani Maker said:
You're not 14 are you? You have to be at least 18 to be on a dating site.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.