Internet Dating Feedback - THE LOADED QUESTION

[rock-star_brian]

Since last January when I started my journey to a one-day seasoned PUA I have noticed the importance of utilizing different avnues of meeting chycks: street, train, bars/clubs, stores and the internet.

With respect to the internet - I have been on tons of internet dates and ineveitably this question comes up from the girl: "so, how has this (match, lava, craigslist...) thing gone for you? Have you met any girls on it?"

I think this is a loaded question. You can say 'yes' - I have met some realy cool girls. While this will raise your social identity (wow, he must be really cool) it might make you come off as a playa and the girl might think she should move on because you have been out with tooooo many girls. If you say 'no' - it makes you out to be creepy and you have no luck on the net....'poor guy...you must have bombed on every first date'

What's the correct answer to this question? One answer I thought of was - I just signed up and you are one of my fisrt dates. Totally, avoid the question with some 'dishonest' honesty...I like that one...but do you guys have any other suggestions???

This can backfire when she could say..." I see you have been on the site for a while...how is it going?' Suggestions here?? How about - "I like expanding my circle of friends'???


Sarge on!!

 

[Tomatoes]

I have only ever made one acquistion over the net and that was on a computer game....i spoke to her while we played together (none sexual you dirty buggers!)

I prefer going out in the REAL world and pulling girls there. Its much better....May not be as easy but its the way it should be....plus there are some real freaks on the net and most the girls are either stuck so far up there own ass or they are ugly.

 

[poohead]

Despite whatever your experiences maybe have been -

'I've met some great people on here, I'm having a great time...' (leave it ambiguous so it seems like you met some women and you could still possibly be seeing them).

Do the same thing if they ask you 'how many women are you seeing right now' or 'what did you do last weekend'. Never let them think that they're the only plate that you're spinning. Even if they are the only person at the moment that you are seeing - it's a little white lie but it beats getting devalued as a loser afc, sooner or later it will be true too.

 

[ca1976]

I prefer going out in the REAL world and pulling girls there. Its much better....May not be as easy but its the way it should be....plus there are some real freaks on the net and most the girls are either stuck so far up there own ass or they are ugly.

I know of lots of people who have met serious girlfriends or spouses with online dating sites. One of my best friends found his wife there, and she's perfect for him in every way. I was in his wedding. The online thing isn't for everyone, but it is pretty effective for some people.

 

[Latinoman]

I know of lots of people who have met serious girlfriends or spouses with online dating sites. One of my best friends found his wife there, and she's perfect for him in every way. I was in his wedding. The online thing isn't for everyone, but it is pretty effective for some people.

I bet you my salary that if your friend's wife ever wanted to cheat on him...she won't have a problem "sarging" for a possible man. After all...she would be able to do that from her comfort of her house. More importantly, she would now have the expertise.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Personally I usually ask the woman this before she does, it's one of the ways that I qualify her. The way that she answers gives you a good idea on whether she's bitter, adventurous, easy going or even a professional dater. It's a very insightful question.

Naturally the woman asks my thoughts and I tell them the truth. "Originally I had no idea what I was doing and met a myriad of people; both interesting and other not so much. Now that I know the personalities and qualities I enjoy best, I've met some really cool women. Even if the chemistry isn't there, we still have really good time."

This shows the woman that:

• You know what you want
• You're a good guy that isn't bitter because on failed hook-ups
• You are confident
• She believes that she is "cool by default" since you only meet cool women now.

Too many guys go about online dating with a "shot in the dark approach" and women are tired of being "the next one in line." If they see that you put some effort into your selection, they will take you more seriously.