I have managed to do this without eBooks but just personal thought. Basically you need to think back to a time, a party, a class, a job interview, talk to the cashier as you rent a movie or buy groceries.. Just find some memory in your mind where you were completely confident and comfortable with yourself and where you were. That is the feeling you want to imitate. Now you have to figure out why you were feeling that way at that certain time. Maybe you just got laid, earned a big pay check, bought a new car, got a hot girl's # who you KNOW really wants you. Now lets break it down.. something simple from your HS days.. Let's say that you just found out that a girl you had a crush on likes you. You feel uplifted, on top of the world, no one can touch you because you are so high up in the clouds. Why were you feeling like this? Because you have social proof for yourself that you were something great to someone else. Now you have to change direction. You were feeling great because of how someone else made you feel, now what you must do is make yourself feel great. You MUST be ready and wanting to make yourself a more confident and comfortable person. You have to do meditation.. not sitting there with your legs crossed in a park humming, but on your lunch break or driving down the road you must figure out why you don't feel confident and secure with yourself.. once you do this you will be half-way done. It could be caused by undo stress in your life, maybe you havn't had great luck with girls lately, maybe you had bad luck with one girl or several. What you're going to have to realize is that you have to be a MAN.. yes that's right a testosterone driven MAN with big b*lls. (Read Pook's entry in the Bible title "The Secret of the Jerk" to go further into this) By being a MAN i mean that you have to KNOW that everyone has insecurities.. EVERYONE.. and everyone is just human.. Some girls will think your attractive and want you, others will not. There will be other guys that might not like you, ****block you, or try and pick a fight with you.. but wait the girls that ignore you aren't meant for you because you arent each others type, the guys who might be negative to you in whatever way are most likely jealous and have to do what they do to make themselves feel more powerful, but they are hiding their true internal states with fake confidence. You are a Master of Your Domain.. There will always be girls who dont like you, but there are even more girls that do. Next time you're out keep an eye out for gorgeous girls with guys who you think would be rated lower then you on a scale from 1-10, and think to yourself, I think I dress and look better than him, he11 I KNOW this -- I just have to find the girls who agree with me.
So what you have done is realized that you need & want a better Inner State.
You have determined why you are in your current state.
You have thought back to a time when you were in a state that you wish you were in all the time.
You figured out why you were feeling so great.
Then you realized that you can make yourself feel that way on a daily basis just by knowing that you are who you are and damn proud of it.
You also realized that other people wont agree with you, and that is there problem because you don't have to deal with them if you dont want to and it is THEIR LOSS.
So now you have begun the transformation process by addressing the problem, figuring out why the problem was there, and finally figuring out that you can control this problem by eliminating it from your mind.
I know i might have rambled a little bit but I hope that I've helped.
