Interesting situation

[Jakeg123]

So it's been a while since I have been on here and in the mean time I had been doing great. A girl almost every weekend (huge progress) and potential girls started every weekend. But then I made a big mistake which I realize.

I ended up hooking up with my ex again. It didn't end badly and it wasn't a horrible reason, I had gotten a little clingy just as she was going out of town and the combination of the two were sh*tty. We didn't talk for months then I brough up the friends with benefits idea and sure enough after a couple hook-ups I'm hooked again. I do like the girl and our relationship has always been a rollercoaster, but I do have some things to workout, most of which work against us.

1) Going to college next year, while she is staying in high school(senior). I don't plan on being with her freshman year, and plan on just having fun over summer.a

2) She hates PDA, so I feel like it's a hidden relationship (can't tell if that's just me, considering all her friends love me and would never disapprove). I can do anything to her when it's just me and her or me her and my close friends, but when others go around (her friends) she makes it awkward.

3) I can't tell if I have to keep my game on the same level, even after the lay. I feel like the dynamic changes?

For some reason I can hook-up with a girl and never need to talk to them again, but with this girl I always get hooked. I think it's the PDA thing that pisses me off.


Thanks-
Jake

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Im sorry if Im wrong, but I dont see your question. Stating your question clearly always gets you more replies.

It looks good to me. Nothing I can really comment on.

 

[Jakeg123]

Alright, i make it exclusive even though I'm going to school soon, and does the PDA thing seem weird to you?

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Maybe. Some girls are like that I think. Not really been in that situation, so I cant really give advice.

 

[Jakeg123]

Last one, does the game change after the lay/relationship? I never had to deal with a relatively long term thing.

 

[Plec07]

I've been in my current LTR for a year and a half now and my last one was about 2 years. In my experience you need to mix up your game a bit in a LTR, if your still constantly teasing her and pissing her about she'll get pissed off with you and stop liking it, so you need to be sweet and caring sometimes. But if your become just sweet and caring and stop teasing her and "having fun" then she'll start to find you too clingy. Just be more caring then you would to somebody your just hooking up with and meeting, but don't become a total pvssy.

 

[Jakeg123]

Ya, I think that's what happened last time as well. But I can tell even from a change in her texting that something needs to change. Anyone that doubts texting needs to consider the fact that for my generation it's a huge aspect. Even though I hate it hah

 

[Jakeg123]

Just talked it out with one of my friends, he brought a good point. Originally I just brought up us being F**k buddies and she liked the idea, I started to have feelings and she obviously did too. Her change in action could be her setting the boundary as that FRIEND with benefits. Means I can hook up with other people too...alright I'm satisfied haha thanks boys