Interesting situation.....some input would be nice

[The Great One]

Here's the back story:

There's a nice girl that I see around all the time because she works at my gym. At the gym, I am always friendly, make two minute conversation, and proceed to working out. I never really go out of my way to talk to her, but I'm never rude if I pass her or see her. Well the other night I am out at a friends party, and who do I see there? The girl from the gym.

I go up to her, say hello, and hit it off great. The whole time I was holding great eye contact, kino was going both ways, and lots of smiles, etc. I was chatting with her, then going off and talking to some other friends and other girls, then coming back and talking to her again, etc. I was busing her balls a good bit and all of her reactions/body language was great. Well, it turned out that she had to leave early that night and just disappeared.

The next morning, I am at the gym and she is working. While I am working out, I saw her walking across the floor and we made eye contact. Unlike ever before, she came up to me all bubbly and full of energy starting a conversation with me. I ended up busting her balls a little bit about leaving the party because she is "too cool" and whatnot, and then I told her I to stop distracting me and let me get back to my workout, with a huge smile of course.

After I am done working out I see her cleaning up some machines, so I decided to head over there and talk a little more (wanted to number close). After a few minutes of chatting, I asked her for her number and told her I would be giving her a personal invite to the next party, meaning she wouldn't be able to leave early. She laughed and gave me her number and then said "yeah definitely just call me or text me sometime so we can hang out. I'm usually pretty free because I'm never doing anything anyway". Then she asked me if I was going to be working out tomorrow because she was going to be coming in (At the party I was making fun because I've seen every staff member besides her working out at one point). I'm there every day around the same time so she told me she would come in when I'll be there to prove me wrong.

Flash forward to the day after and I was at the gym like always, but I didn't see her. After I got home I sent her a quick text asking what was up etc. She texted me back with some more small talk and then I sent her another text basically making fun of her saying that I didn't see her in the gym, yet again. She never texted me back.

Now, the dilemma:

Recently, a bunch of my friends have been telling me how they never gets my texts when I say I sent them and have them in my outbox, but they never show up in their inbox. It is pretty possible that this happened when I texted her last, but at the same time she could have just not texted me back for whatever reason. Anyway, I didn't text her again because I didn't want her to feel like I'm really chasing after her (in the event that she actually did get my text).

How should I proceed with this one? I'm pretty sure we hit everything off well, so I was probably just going to wait until Thursday/Fridayish to text her and ask her what she was up to over the weekend. Any input or suggestions?

 

[Scars]

My phone does that a lot too. I just always assume it's them not texting back, that way I don't feel needy if I text them again. The worst that could happen is they call me a jerk for the next time I run into them. Occasionally, you'll get some girls who get extremely upset if you don't write them back, but who wants one of those anyway? Use this for small talk texting, and ALWAYS call while making plans. Problem solved.

 

[BlizzardGuy]

I would assume she just didnt write back.

This being the case then, I would ignore her as well. Just see what happenes next time you see her in the gym.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I go up to her, say hello, and hit it off great. The whole time I was holding great eye contact, kino was going both ways, and lots of smiles, etc. I was chatting with her, then going off and talking to some other friends and other girls, then coming back and talking to her again, etc. I was busing her balls a good bit and all of her reactions/body language was great. Well, it turned out that she had to leave early that night and just disappeared.

You did well at the party; showed her that your a fun guy, had lots of friends at the party etc.

The next morning, I am at the gym and she is working. While I am working out, I saw her walking across the floor and we made eye contact. Unlike ever before, she came up to me all bubbly and full of energy starting a conversation with me. I ended up busting her balls a little bit about leaving the party because she is "too cool" and whatnot, and then I told her I to stop distracting me and let me get back to my workout, with a huge smile of course.

I personally wouldn't have mentioned her leaving the party early. Why? Cause that tells her that you were looking for her/noticed her absence.. You wanna keep them off balance early in the game. But your still doing well at this point.

After I am done working out I see her cleaning up some machines, so I decided to head over there and talk a little more (wanted to number close). After a few minutes of chatting, I asked her for her number and told her I would be giving her a personal invite to the next party, meaning she wouldn't be able to leave early. She laughed and gave me her number and then said "yeah definitely just call me or text me sometime so we can hang out. I'm usually pretty free because I'm never doing anything anyway". Then she asked me if I was going to be working out tomorrow because she was going to be coming in (At the party I was making fun because I've seen every staff member besides her working out at one point). I'm there every day around the same time so she told me she would come in when I'll be there to prove me wrong.

She's showing good signs of interest here...

Flash forward to the day after and I was at the gym like always, but I didn't see her. After I got home I sent her a quick text asking what was up etc. She texted me back with some more small talk and then I sent her another text basically making fun of her saying that I didn't see her in the gym, yet again. She never texted me back.

This was bad; your showing too much interest and its killing her attraction for you...

Recently, a bunch of my friends have been telling me how they never gets my texts when I say I sent them and have them in my outbox, but they never show up in their inbox. It is pretty possible that this happened when I texted her last, but at the same time she could have just not texted me back for whatever reason. Anyway, I didn't text her again because I didn't want her to feel like I'm really chasing after her (in the event that she actually did get my text).

Your over-analyzing here.. You text her and she text you back, this shows you that she's receiving your texts. She didn't reply to your second text.


How should I proceed with this one? I'm pretty sure we hit everything off well, so I was probably just going to wait until Thursday/Fridayish to text her and ask her what she was up to over the weekend. Any input or suggestions?

I wouldn't text her again; I'd talk to her the next time you see her at the gym and see how she responds. If she's still flirty and showing strong signs of interest, set up a time to hang out right there.

PIMP