interesting situation...could use some advice

[MyBloodyValentine]

ok. so right now i am living abroad and i was with a girl (resident of the country) for about 6 months. i broke it off with her a few weeks ago because i have a number of other prospects... but i wont lie, i was really close with her, and sometimes miss her. so, like i said, i have been with some other girls during this time.

last saturday i met with the ex-girlfriend to give her some things back, and she told me she was seeing a new guy...a foreigner who lives in my dormitory (who i know, and we all have the same friends but i dont know him so well). well, the idea of them being together really doesnt bother me at all...but somehow i still dont want to see it you know?

so now, this saturday, my friends have rented out this huge place for us to party at, there will be about 60 people there, and i looked on the list and saw that this guy is coming, and bringing my ex-girlfriend. so it is kind of strange for me...i dont really want her to be there at all and feel she should find her on friends... but at the same time... they will be together regardless so i feel i should just get used to seeing them around. on top of that, if i decide not to go, it will be like..letting her win in a way. letting her behaviour alter the course of my life and what i do with it. but i also have other options for that night and other people i can party with...

so..im just wondering what you guys think about this? im guessing you will advise me to go and just have fun anyways and not pay any attention, but im really lost as to what to do, and im sick of thinkin of it all the time.

thanks!

 

[kingsam]

1- go to the party, with another chick if you can (who is hotter than ur ex if possible)
2- be civil to your ex - even freindly - show you coulnt really care if shes seeing a new guy (showing they didnt mean anything/ or your indifferernt to them is the best way to get back at them)
3- be civil to the new guy - again even freindly - make your self look like a cool guy (so if your ex says anything bad about you to him, he thinks "that cant be true, this guy is cool!")
4- have women all over you in the party as much as possible, if theres no prospects, just enjoy the party

look calm confident, self-assured (even if ur not inside)

 

[MyBloodyValentine]

hey kingsam, thanks for the reply. ya, i thin kyou confirmed what i was thinking. i remember reading on here one time that indifference is the strongest force in the universe and i couldnt agree more. if i show up with the girl im seein now, it will cause problems so i wont do that, but i will own that ****in party! and i know there will be a lot of new girls there for me to meet.

thanks though, i needed some help to really decide where to go.

the only thing that wierded me out was that when i saw her on the saturday to give her things back, like..everything was great, we were happy to see each other and told each other about what has happened in the mean time, and everything was cool. that same day i wrote her on facebook sayin like ya im glad we can be cool..but she relplied by deleting me from her friends. this is why i was thinking it may be a little strange at the party.