Interesting Question I think

[LaoRyuu-Des]

Alright as some of you already know, there was a girl that I was interested in and quite hesitant in approaching. Well I said I would approach her Monday, I didn't and ended up doing it on Thursday. I think it was a success because I was able to number close for the first time in my life. I was tempted to call her that day but I knew it was a bad idea. Though I attempted anyway, and I'm kinda glad I did because turns out, the number I had written down was a digit off. So the next day, Friday, while I was talking with her on our way to 5th period, she asked me if I was going to homecoming. I told her I didn't know yet and we moved on in the conversation. Then I asked her if she could give me her number again because I had possibly written down the wrong number. She didn't have her phone handy, so she asked if I had a Facebook. I did, but it was deactivated. Then a little later she asked me if I had any plans this weekend. I told her no, I was probably just going to relax a bit and she told me she had to attend her younger sister's soccer game on Saturday. Then that was the end of it. We had to go our separate ways.

Alright then. That's the gist of the current situation. Not too long ago, she confirmed that I indeed did write down the wrong number. But it's a bit complicated though. See she's foreign, Japanese, and I don't think she's been here all that long. I have no idea if I should be following the same rules and what not used on American girls, on her. Like the not calling for a full week thing for example. She came from a pretty different culture I think and I have no idea what I should be doing. That and this is the first time I've done something like this so I'm REALLY in the dark.

 

[longlifexs]

Well first of all, if you don't follow the "rules" used on American girls, what are you gonna do?

There certainly is a cultural difference, but girls from all over the world have more thing in common than they have different. She might have different social standards and customs and whatever, but she is still a girl so the whole concept of attraction and all that stuff will work like on any other girl. Just look at the progress you made so far. Sure, she isn't undressing every time she sees you, but she gave you her number, which shows that she has some, at least basic, IL. And she asked about your plans for weekend. Do you think she would ask out of pure curiosity? Well, she could have, but I don't think so. You probably could have added something that would lead to the two of you spending some time during the weekend together or something. Well whatever, this isn't what you asked about.

So yeah, I think that you should use all the knowledge you gained about girls through your life without caring about her origin much. I'm not sure about Japan, but there are members from India and many other countries with cultures fairly different from the U.S./western one and they use stuff from this forum on the girls in their countries with success too

 

[SinJester]

The "rules" are bull**** anyway. They are not rules but rather guidelines for guys who come here as total AFCs

Longlifexs has basically covered it, girls are girls.