Interesting online dating opportunity

[Willard]

This 43 yo woman messages me on datehookup.com about a month ago. Her pictures are terrible, I had no idea if she is attractive or not, but she says athletic body. We message back and forth for a few days, she doesn’t respond back after my last message. I also saw she was looking at my POF profile. A couple of days ago she messages me again saying sorry she didn’t get back to me because she is never on the site. Anyway I send her a message back just saying here’s my number text me, she messages me back with her number. I text her a couple of times, then I text her lets chat on the phone. We end up talking for 2 hours. She asks for more pics of me, then she sends me 2 pics of her, her body is smoking hot, but the face pics aren’t clear. I asked her if she wanted to get a drink the next day, she says what’s the rush why don’t we talk on the phone a few more times before we meet, I told her no rush but that’s the only day I have free. During the conversation she says she really enjoys talking to me and I can call her anytime. Today I send her a text, she sends me a clear pic of her face, she is beautiful. I sent her a great pic of me on a motorcycle. I’m not sure how to proceed. I’m thinking about texting her tomorrow so we can chat on the phone some more. She has a great personality, and now I’m really interested. She is a hairdresser and she wrote a book, no kids, from NJ moved here to FL a year ago after her 12 year relationship fell apart. I think I’m doing pretty well by not showing that much interest, and we get along really well on the phone. But now I know she is a really beautiful intelligent woman with no baggage. I want to take her more seriously now. Any recommendations on the next step would be appreciated.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Don't change how you've been treating her. When talking to her, imagine her as blurry face girl.

You treated her one way when you didn't know what she looked like, she responded to that. Now that you know she's beautiful, why should that change anything? If it does, then you lost.

Don't start sucking her a$$ now.

 

[The Duke]

hmm...hairdresser.....Someone who stands around gossiping and worrying about looks all day. There are a lot of good looking ones tho, just none I would want long term!

 

[Willard]

hmm...hairdresser.....Someone who stands around gossiping and worrying about looks all day. There are a lot of good looking ones tho, just none I would want long term!

That's what I thought too! I'm not going to bother with this one. Lol

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

You should at least try to bang her......IMO anyways.

Yeah, I agree with the hairdresser thing....however, 43 yo...divorcee? Some of these got married young, now they're divorced and out in the workforce with no education or prior work experience. Just sayin. I wouldn't write her off strictly because of that....

 

[Willard]

She's never been married. I showed very little interest, I sent her a text every few days. Yesterday I sent her a text telling her I would call her last night. I called her and left a message, she didn't call me back. I'm just going to blow her off. Unless someone has a strategy to recover it?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Willard,
Preconceived actions based on stereo typing are one of the intelligent Mans greatest enemies,in more things than romance...
If you have the time go and see her,treat her as another potential plate...Remember Scarras ninth Maxim,a DJ should try the bread from every oven!

 

[VladPatton]

So what if she's a hair dresser or not, just go for it. One date at least. PS: Just make sure she's a woman and not a tranny!

 

[Willard]

Ha ha, I'm sure she's a woman, I have plenty of pics. But she didn't call me back. I'm going to wait until after the weekend and text her. She seems like a game player.

 

[amoka]

Willard,
I thought you were doing great until you said this:

..I know she is a really beautiful intelligent woman with no baggage. I want to take her more seriously now.

As others have already said, don't let her recent picture fool you. Your image of her should remain the same old bleary image you have of her and don't be fooled by thinking if you "take her more seriously now", she'll take you more seriously.

 

[sodbuster]

The face and body pictures may be 10 years ago. I met one once who was 30 over what she told me{my ex wife was the same height and her weight varied a bunch}, another was 40 over what her picture said.... SHE'S HOPING to reel you in with her personality and the time you spent talking to her.... IF she doesn't meet you in person, she's gone

 

[sharonblay]

I would no date online sure some people meet up and stuff online but you never know who you are talking too. You might think there 16 but they could really be a 60 year old man so I would not date online. You are putting your life at risk if you do even if your profile is private and only friends can look at it you never know who you are inviting in like all the girls on MySpace that got killed they thought they were talking to a 16 year old boy but turned out it wasn't so I wouldn't trust anyone online unless you know them in real life so do not date online.

 

[The Duke]

Dear Willard,
Preconceived actions based on stereo typing are one of the intelligent Mans greatest enemies,in more things than romance...
If you have the time go and see her,treat her as another potential plate...Remember Scarras ninth Maxim,a DJ should try the bread from every oven!

You are exactly right Scara, and its too bad there is some truth to the stereotype. Its kind of like dating strippers and single mommies. Stereotypes exist and prevail for a reason. Just know what you are most likely dealing with when you surround yourself with these types. Maybe he'll get lucky and prove the stereotype wrong in this case.

 

[SgtSplacker]

When it comes to online dating I have some rules.

I won't chat on the site for more than 2 days.

I won't talk to her on the phone for more than 1 week before meeting her.

The first date better come the weekend of getting her number or the next.

And no expensive first dates either.

 

[Willard]

IMO you've got the right idea. Let this plate go cold until TUES of next week. When you text, get right to the fvucking point and ask her to meet you face to face. No cutesy witty flirty one--liners.

Here's how I'd want the text dialogue to look like:

You: "Hi."

If she doesn't respond to that, DO NOT TEXT HER AGAIN. Keep the number and wait a few months.

Her: "Hi how's it going. What have you been up to this weekend?"

You: "Not much. I'd like you to join me for a drink or two this Thursday night at 8 at The Rusty Nail on 5th and Main. Will you meet me there?"

That's IT. Either she accepts or she doesn't. If she does accept, say, "Great. See you Thursday night then." DO NOT TEXT OR CALL AFTER THAT. If she initiates a text, respond blandly and be short in the texts. No counter-question texts.

If she doesn't accept, just move on. Don't even respond with "OK." Just ignore her for a few months. Then after a few months text her again and ask her to meet you.

Thanks, I'm going to do exactly that.

Espi

If I don't end up seeing her I'll gladly send you her info.

sharonblay

You have to be careful online, but I've met quite a few nice girls online. Some turned out to be a little crazy, but all in all good experiences.

 

[Willard]

Espi,

I did what you said, It worked pretty good, thanks.