"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey guys, this is my first post but I've been studying here and the various gurus for about 6 months.

I have always been interested in success and the traits that enable a person to succeed and climb to the top. I'm a history buff and have analyzed the characteristics of the great leaders, especially those that rose from obscurity to the top. I've also studied the characteristics of real life situations that I encounter every day, most specifically to business situations since I own a business. I've noticed that I was able to pick up and understand the concepts of female psychology quite quickly because they are pretty much identical to success principles. It seems that the traits that a man needs in order to succeed and rise to the top are exactly the traits that turn women on instinctively. The part that I find fascinating is that I'm sure that no one is teaching them what traits to look for, they are just able to instinctively sense them, and must be born with it. I would have to equate it to birds knowing to fly south for the winter or salmon swimming back to the waters they were born in. It's quite a fascinating concept when you think about it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do tell. What kind of observations have you made on persons traits?

There're a lot of mysteries on this our earth... not least why man usually does not think, and often chooses to act out of fear and emotion like the animals he calls primitive...

Ok I've been reading too much kiyosaki.
 

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I would say the core ones are:

1. More aggressive (in relation to goal achievement, not necessarily physical although it can be)
2. Bolder / more courageous- Taking risks that others are afraid to do
3. Smarter - Being able to outmaneuver your opponent.
4. Unwavering determination to win no matter what
5. Stable unshakeable nerves and emotions
6. Extreme level of self confidence in decisions
7. Intestinal fortitude to prevail under any adversity no matter how bad
8. Better people skills - for amassing people behind your endeavors (Likeable)
9. Faster - so you can outmaneuver your opponents.
10. Extreme level of drive and capacity for work
11. Best dressed for conveying status to others.
12. Don't care about approval of others because they consider themselves above others.

A lot of them I would say are directly proportional to testosterone levels. There are some more but I would say they all boil down to three main ones:

1. People skills
2. Drive
3. Intelligence
 

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Originally posted by classyguy
I would say the core ones are:

1. More aggressive (in relation to goal achievement, not necessarily physical although it can be)
2. Bolder / more courageous- Taking risks that others are afraid to do
3. Smarter - Being able to outmaneuver your opponent.
4. Unwavering determination to win no matter what
5. Stable unshakeable nerves and emotions
6. Extreme level of self confidence in decisions
7. Intestinal fortitude to prevail under any adversity no matter how bad
8. Better people skills - for amassing people behind your endeavors (Likeable)
9. Faster - so you can outmaneuver your opponents.
10. Extreme level of drive and capacity for work
11. Best dressed for conveying status to others.
12. Don't care about approval of others because they consider themselves above others.

A lot of them I would say are directly proportional to testosterone levels. There are some more but I would say they all boil down to three main ones:

1. People skills
2. Drive
3. Intelligence
Sounds like Hitler :)

Good post and I agree with your findings. Those are skills you can see in many leaders. I also believe that some people develop these traits naturally, but the good thing is that most possess the ability to develop all of these traits consciously.
 

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Hitler was pretty successful. For a while.

But his case illustrates the fact that too much aggression and risk-taking can cause your whole empire to crash.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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