"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hey guys, this is my first post but I've been studying here and the various gurus for about 6 months.

I have always been interested in success and the traits that enable a person to succeed and climb to the top. I'm a history buff and have analyzed the characteristics of the great leaders, especially those that rose from obscurity to the top. I've also studied the characteristics of real life situations that I encounter every day, most specifically to business situations since I own a business. I've noticed that I was able to pick up and understand the concepts of female psychology quite quickly because they are pretty much identical to success principles. It seems that the traits that a man needs in order to succeed and rise to the top are exactly the traits that turn women on instinctively. The part that I find fascinating is that I'm sure that no one is teaching them what traits to look for, they are just able to instinctively sense them, and must be born with it. I would have to equate it to birds knowing to fly south for the winter or salmon swimming back to the waters they were born in. It's quite a fascinating concept when you think about it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Do tell. What kind of observations have you made on persons traits?

There're a lot of mysteries on this our earth... not least why man usually does not think, and often chooses to act out of fear and emotion like the animals he calls primitive...

Ok I've been reading too much kiyosaki.
 

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I would say the core ones are:

1. More aggressive (in relation to goal achievement, not necessarily physical although it can be)
2. Bolder / more courageous- Taking risks that others are afraid to do
3. Smarter - Being able to outmaneuver your opponent.
4. Unwavering determination to win no matter what
5. Stable unshakeable nerves and emotions
6. Extreme level of self confidence in decisions
7. Intestinal fortitude to prevail under any adversity no matter how bad
8. Better people skills - for amassing people behind your endeavors (Likeable)
9. Faster - so you can outmaneuver your opponents.
10. Extreme level of drive and capacity for work
11. Best dressed for conveying status to others.
12. Don't care about approval of others because they consider themselves above others.

A lot of them I would say are directly proportional to testosterone levels. There are some more but I would say they all boil down to three main ones:

1. People skills
2. Drive
3. Intelligence
 

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Originally posted by classyguy
I would say the core ones are:

1. More aggressive (in relation to goal achievement, not necessarily physical although it can be)
2. Bolder / more courageous- Taking risks that others are afraid to do
3. Smarter - Being able to outmaneuver your opponent.
4. Unwavering determination to win no matter what
5. Stable unshakeable nerves and emotions
6. Extreme level of self confidence in decisions
7. Intestinal fortitude to prevail under any adversity no matter how bad
8. Better people skills - for amassing people behind your endeavors (Likeable)
9. Faster - so you can outmaneuver your opponents.
10. Extreme level of drive and capacity for work
11. Best dressed for conveying status to others.
12. Don't care about approval of others because they consider themselves above others.

A lot of them I would say are directly proportional to testosterone levels. There are some more but I would say they all boil down to three main ones:

1. People skills
2. Drive
3. Intelligence
Sounds like Hitler :)

Good post and I agree with your findings. Those are skills you can see in many leaders. I also believe that some people develop these traits naturally, but the good thing is that most possess the ability to develop all of these traits consciously.
 

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Hitler was pretty successful. For a while.

But his case illustrates the fact that too much aggression and risk-taking can cause your whole empire to crash.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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