"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Interesting link on the HB Rating Scale

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http://realitymethod.wordpress.com/2007/02/12/the-hot-babe-scale/

B 1.0: This is the absolute bottom of the barrel in the looks department. This is the girl with missing teeth, grossly obese, with a glass eye, or a woman who is virtually indistinguishable from a man. Think of Janet Reno.


B 2.0: A slight improvement over 1.0, but not by much.


B 3.0: At 3.0, girls start coming out of the “untouchable” department and start getting boyfriends who are just as ugly as them.


B 4.0: At 4.0, girls start getting a little attitude. Most HBs have a 3 or a 4 girlfriend to act as a “buffer” or a ****block, so these girls often get the idea they are indispensable in a social sense, and in some ways, they’re right.


B 5.0: average. Not ugly, but not hot. Considered by many guys to be the minimum acceptable level of looks for any type of socialization. Typically have more of an attitude than a 4.0, and also have some elaborate mental rationalizations designed to protect them from the truth that they are nothing special. May also have a completely unrealistic perception of men, women, and society, given that they CAN get laid (by guys from 1-5 on the value scale), and therefore consider themselves basically 100% acceptable in a social and sexual sense.

HB 6.0: This is the first level at which girls are considered “hot” with any level of male consensus: often, they have a decent facial and body structure, with some minor defects (bad skin, paleness, too skinny in areas, thin or unhealthy hair, etc).

HB 7.0: Oh boy, here we go. On the HB scale, 6’s and 7’s get THE MOST ATTENTION out of all the women, even though the 5’s are more numerically plentiful (assuming a roughly normal distribution curve). 6’s and 7’s are hot, to be sure — but not TOO hot that they are considered “unapproachable”.

In other words, most guys on the social value scale between 4 and 10 feel confident that they can “get” a 6 or a 7. So, 6’s and 7’s are the ones that get approached and hit on more than any other number on the scale. This gives them an attitude problem: because they got hit on so much, they *assume* that they must be HIGHER on the HB scale than they actually are.

This is why so many 6’s and 7’s (particularly 7’s) have a *****y, holier-than-thou attitude even towards guys who are, socially speaking, higher value than them. This is probably one of the most important concepts of the HB scale to understand.

HB 8.0 Now we’re getting into the high territory of seriously smoking hot women.
These are the woman that make you look twice, or if you get a chance you just stare at them, because the very process of looking at them is lighting up the pleasure centers of your brain. Some of these women have the attitude problem found at the 6-7 level, but to a lesser extent: typically, at the 8.0 level their beauty is already starting to weed out less-confident guys with extreme prejudice. These girls just typically get a lot of unconscious, automatic sexual validation (guys heads’ turning to follow them through a room, doors behind held open, etc).

If she’s bought into the whole ’self-empowerment’ thing, this girl is also extremely manipulative with her looks, batting her eyelashes and leveraging her cleavage to get out of speeding tickets, court dates, and get jobs, promotions, and all kinds of free **** pretty much all the time.

SHB 9.0: The polarization increases. These women are either EXTREMELY nice and humble, or EXTREMELY *****y and cynical towards men. Typically, 9’s get hit on even less than 8’s, and this often makes them fundamentally insecure about their looks. Often the sexual validation they got is so subtle that it’s easy for them to paint it as just guys “being nice” or whatever.These women may get free things or stuff bought for them constantly, but again, this can be rationalized away as “sweet guys” (who incidentally they do NOT find attractive in the least).

The 9 is often very lonely; not only does she not get approached by guys, but because most guys will beta themselves to her so quickly (”you’re so beautiful I really like you blah blah”) she rarely gets a chance to encounter a quality guy who IS NOT IMPRESSED by her looks, and therefore be attracted to him.

SHB 10: This is it. The top of the heap. Supermodel-quality hotness. 10’s get approached even less than 9 — in fact, most of them rarely, if EVER, get approached. I’ve met 22 and 25 year old 10’s that have never been approached by a guy they didn’t know — not once, never, in all their lives. Because of this, I’ve found that most 10’s are even more likely to be sweet and relatively “normal” than 9’s — unless they get scooped up by some modeling agency and whisked away to L.A., where the modeling / celebrity culture will make short work of any redeeming values or moral personality they had.

On the other hand, SHB 10’s can be pandered to from birth, and therefore develop horrible ogress personalities that make them basically totally unpalatable in adult relationships.

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That’s about it. To reiterate what I think are the most important parts of the HB scale:

1) 6’s and 7’s usually have higher opinions of themselves than they actually warrant. Avoid.
2) 9’s and 10’s don’t get approached often enough, so often you will get better mileage out of going after hotter girls (in general).
3) In a way, it doesn’t matter how WE AS GUYS rate the girls on the looks scale as much as it matters HOW THE GIRL RATES HERSELF. A 7 who thinks she is a 10 will need to be cut down just as surely as a legitimate 10 that is acting dismissive and *****y (as they typically do). Usually it will take a little bit of effort to ferret out a woman’s self-rating in conversation.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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That first guy is WAY off. The girl pictured as a 3.0 is actually attractive (obviously a bad picture of a 6-7.0 girl).

His 2 is a.... picture is too damn small.
His 4 is a 4 (agree on this)
His 5 is a 7.
His 7 is a 9. (Jesus, is that guy serious, just a 7 for her????)
is 6 is a 7.8, or arguably an 8.
His 8 is an 8 (or maybe 6-7 if an ugly face. He's more skilled than me because he can see through thick black sunglasses).
His 9 is a 7 (makeup fooled him).
His 10 is a 9.
 

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Phyzzle said:
Heh, I like this one more:
Its a more accurate scale too. I didn't see any rating I overtly disagreed with.
 

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^^ On closer inspection, the 9 on the first scale appears to be the 7 with an inch of unnecessary make-up smeared on.

But mainly, I find the 5 to be the most beautiful by far! Could have an awful body, but I can't tell.

Yeah, that reality method guy has some different taste. Looks like his site has some interesting articles, but a lot of it looks like elaborate KBJ theorizing taken from sites like this one. Not enough examples.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Phyzzle said:
But mainly, I find the 5 to be the most beautiful by far! Could have an awful body, but I can't tell.
Yeah I fancy that "5" too!
 
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