You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
^Originally posted by Bible_Belt
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
From http://theomnivore.com/The Soy Page.htmlThe anti-nutrients in soy include:
* Phytates, well known for their ability to impair the body's absorption of important minerals like zinc, magnesium and iron;
* Protease inhibitors and trypsin inhibitors, which impair digestive function. These have been shown to cause growth depression, pancreatic hypertrophy and pancreatic cancer in animal studies;
* Lectins, which have been shown to compromise gastrointestinal health and impair immune function;
* Oxalates, calcium-binding compounds that are especially high in spinach, rubarb--and soy. These must be avoided by those with a propensity for developing kidney stones, and may even increase the risk of osteoporosis in otherwise healthy folks.
* Goitrogens, which interfere with thyroid function. As Daniel elaborates, soy's anti-thyroid tendencies have been well-documented in the medical literature, both in animal and human studies. Daniel cites official data showing frightening rises in the incidence of thyroid cancer--a 42 percent increase between 1975 and 1996--a rise that correlates with the accelerating use of soy infant formula. While quick to highlight the low rates of certain cancers in Asia, soy's promoters seem extremely reluctant to mention the abnormally high levels of thyroid disease in this same region. Cretinism is common in impoverished rural areas of China where poverty forces people to consume larger-than-normal amounts of soy, while thyroid disease is common in Japan, where soy consumption is the highest in the world.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Would you care to elaborate on this evoke? I'd be really interested to hear more of this rollercoaster ride you mention.Originally posted by evoke
I'll just say that after the rollercoaster ride that has been the last few months of my life, I am firmly back into eating meat, and taking whey.