"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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interesting exchange with HB9.5

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I met her about 7 months ago at work. She quit, but a week after she left, she started calling... to 'catch up'

Both of us were in a LTR. We continued to talk once a week or so, untill about a month ago... She called me, seemingly, to tell me that her an her BF had split.

I didn't think much about it, until my GF an I split last week...

So I called HB9.5 and she became so excited, asking me to come to her work, and telling me not to take so long to call her next time...

Yesterday, I called her, and spoke with her for about 5 minutes, and she had to go to work...She said call me later - and let me know what you are going to do...

I called her when I got off work, and she told me she was going to a bar on the other side of town, so I said, well thats too bad...

She said but call me later.

About 2 am I texted her, and asked her if she was still as fun as she used to be.... We continued to talk **** to each other for 7 messages, and about hour... She ended it by saying she had to get up early.




I'm know I'm dealing with a flaky HB, but shes putting forth alot more effort to flake - than anyone I've ever seen.

It's not oneitis, so don't give that tired advice.


thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Call her up one day and say "hey baby, what are you doin right now? nothing? alright, i'll pick you up in 5 minutes" make it seem spontanieous and then go on a date. Jesus.
 

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sounds like a good idea.


but if she is busy at the time I call her?
 

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dont call 5 minutes before. call her on a tuesday and ask her out for a friday night
 

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Hey dude.

This woman wants you bad. You dont need to play to distant with her as you already have her in the bag how ever i do suggest you be very spontanious and adventurous with her as you need to show the girl a good time and that your not like other guys. Why not go on a dte tomorrow night dont wait for the weekend .

Good Luck

Ricard :woo:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Ricard78
Hey dude.

This woman wants you bad. You dont need to play to distant with her as you already have her in the bag how ever i do suggest you be very spontanious and adventurous with her as you need to show the girl a good time and that your not like other guys. Why not go on a dte tomorrow night dont wait for the weekend .

Good Luck

Ricard :woo:


Thats just it man.
I know she wants it, but she is so damn flaky. I texted her last night when I got off work... "why play games?".... I didn't hear anything from her.

So I'll follow my rule... call once - and if she don't call back - next.
 

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Originally posted by Ricard78
Hey dude.

This woman wants you bad. You dont need to play to distant with her as you already have her in the bag how ever i do suggest you be very spontanious and adventurous with her as you need to show the girl a good time and that your not like other guys. Why not go on a dte tomorrow night dont wait for the weekend .

Good Luck

Ricard :woo:

Some of the advice on here is better than watching a good stand up comedian!!!

Yeah this chick wants you BAD!!! That's why she keeps on putting you on her doggy leash and telling you to call her. Remember bro, a DJ doesn't chase girls, he attracts, seduces and then watches them turn into putty in his hands. You are showing her too much availablity based on her demands to call her. Next time she tells you to call her later, flip the script on her and tell her to call you. Yes, this girl definitely was attracted to you at one point, now you need to show her that your the prize and stop chasing her around. Otherwise, she'll continue to be the HB that talks to you, but is never available.




PIMP
 

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Originally posted by Pimp-sicle
Some of the advice on here is better than watching a good stand up comedian!!!

Yeah this chick wants you BAD!!! That's why she keeps on putting you on her doggy leash and telling you to call her. Remember bro, a DJ doesn't chase girls, he attracts, seduces and then watches them turn into putty in his hands. You are showing her too much availablity based on her demands to call her. Next time she tells you to call her later, flip the script on her and tell her to call you. Yes, this girl definitely was attracted to you at one point, now you need to show her that your the prize and stop chasing her around. Otherwise, she'll continue to be the HB that talks to you, but is never available.
I totally agree with this. She's a chick like all the others. The only difference is is that she probably knows she's hot. Just remember she ****s just like everyone else. Feeling down that she's treating you like this? Go out to the bar or the clubs or where ever and have a good time! Flirt, dance, have fun, and be an Alpha Male. You'll realize that she doesn't matter that much. As the Great Silent Bob has said, "There are a million hot chicks in the world but only a handful that will bring you lasauna." If she's being a flake FU*K OFF. You have more important things to do with you time than worry about her.
 

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Originally posted by bootlegger
So I called HB9.5... telling me not to take so long to call her next time...

Yesterday, I called her... She said call me later

I called her when I got off work

She said but call me later.

Notice the pattern...

Mistake #1 can be found at the first quote and your submission to it... you should've took the chance to bring it up in C&F fashion that nothing is stopping her from calling you... refine your skills and you'll be able to tell her to call you, give her an exact time and watch her call you to the minute

Then you just continued along those lines... call after call after call... too easy and boring for this girl

You need to be much more intense in your skills... a short time building a big attraction rather than trying to build it much more gradually... the longer you take the more your chances decrease
 

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somehow, I already knew this. but couldn't put my finger on it...


always a pleasure pimp-sicle.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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