"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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rick92f

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I previously wrote the best revenge is to live well thread.

So today I'm helping my brother out and I walk in the house and check my phone. There is a text from my ex whom I haven't heard from in a long time. The text says," Hi. Hope you're good. I wanted to know where you bought my tires at because I'm going to get them rotated today. This is xxxxx by the way."

Back in the AFC days I would have scrambled to reply.

Today is a whole different game.

You see this broad is a receipt queen. She keeps paperwork from things she bought 10 years ago. I know damn good and well she has the paperwork that she needs. I'm convinced that it's an effort to reel me back in to the fray of things. I'm not saying that it's a ploy to get me back. I'll bet that her Valentine's Day wasn't up to the standard that I had set a long time ago. She's looking for that ego boost and I'm not about to give it to her.

My roommate thinks I should send her a message and tell her to kick rocks. My thinking is that I should just ignore it and let it go. I think any response would feed her and I'm not in the business of pleasing her any more. I have learned a lot here.

Any input from you Gents?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Jitterbug

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You've already given her too much thought by posting this thread. Just delete the text and ignore her.
 

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rick92f said:
I think any response would feed her and I'm not in the business of pleasing her any more. I have learned a lot here.

Any input from you Gents?
Her text was a pretext. Women reconnect exactly like that, They toss up some innocent looking bait and hope that you bite down on it and tug on the line. They always reconnect for some reason which is to their benefit,

SHe probably has nobody to fawn over her and figures that there may stiil be a couple of dollars left in her 'old account' with you .

Ignore it or you might regret it later.
 

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Dear Rick,
Politely send back the Tyre contact number,(only the decent thing to do),then invite her round for a quickie...straight out,no equivocation,the polarisation in behaviour will really throw her....As one never goes back,it will be a laugh,but there is a certain pleasure in knowing you are the top Dog, and of course another phone number could be handy for the next dry patch.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I agree a little text, got them at Speedy Tire on Fox St.. That is all you write. Says I acknowledge you as a person, shows no emotion, or intent by you to validate her. This way you are saying **** off, I do not care about you without burning a bridge.
 
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