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Interesting debacle

coolguy676767

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I know this is very long but I would greatly appreciate advice, I gave the whole set-up so you understand but I guess its possible to skip towards the end.

Ok I like to think I am a DJ in the making, I know all the major principles and general strategies and my game has improved 10-fold in the last year, yet it still is not up their with the best of them.

Anyways I am 18 and still live with my parents am a senior in high school.

Anyways on New Years Eve I met this girl at a party, was a friend of a friend and we had a great time. She asked me to dance at one point and at the end of the night when I was like ah thats too bad you have to go, she actually offered her number before I could ask for it. So I know she has some interest.

Now here is where things get diffucult, normally I could get my game going no problem at this point, however considering our ages (me 18, her 17) and this being a busy time of the school year she is not allowed out of the house for about 4 weeks(2 of which have already passed). Even after New years I waited 3 days to even call, made the conversation short and sweet, she was busy so I said I would call her next week I waited for about a week and she called me asking if I could hang out tomorrow I was busy so I said no. About 3 days later is when I realized she was grounded and I know this for a fact(long story).

Now the important part, how do I play this off, I am trying to not talk to her in a kind way, because I dont want to establish a friendship, I want to establish a dating relationship, and if I talk to her too much on the phone or whatever then there will not be as much to talk about on future dates. However I think it would be advisable to keep some kind of consistent communication until we are both available. I dont know her well enough yet but she has potential to be LTR material is she is who I think she is. So what is your best advice here. Do I continue to talk to her on the phone in 3 or 4 days intervals. Do I say I MIGHT call her in 3 days, and instead call her in 4 or 5. Would you not talk to ehr at all for 2 weeks, or would you just talk in 2 minute conversations, 10 minute conversations. Any advice at all actually. Plus what do you guys think is the best first date oppurtunity for someone my age.
 

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Whats up.

Personally I wouldnt talk to her for two weeks, I hate making calls "just to talk". Just suprise her when you're both available and give her a ring.
 

coolguy676767

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Ok yeah that seemed like a good plan of action at the time, how do I reply if she calls me, which she has already done once and how do I play that off without being a **** while at the same time not being an AFC and get out of the conversation quickly without a commital to call back, and if she asks me to call back should I say I will call her in 3 days and wait like 5 or what.

Thanks for the opinion, but I would love more if anyone has any opinions whether their similar or totally different.
 
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