Interesting dating article

[Hamurabimbi]

Dating Roundup #1: This Is Why You're Still Single

Developments around relationships and dating have a relatively small speed premium, so I figured I would wait until I had a full post worth of them. Indeed I now present such a post, in which I present several theories as to why so many of you might still be single.

thezvi.substack.com

A key quote: "...getting a first date is indeed the primary barrier to finding a relationship. If you went on four or more first dates in the past year, which is one every three months or ~1% of nights, then it is highly unlikely you are single.’.

i went on >4 1st dates the year i was single. I didn’t stay single.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Yeah but no poooosy!

 

[Robert28]

First dates are easy. For it to turn into anything more is the struggle most men have.

 

[CornbreadFed]

First dates are easy. For it to turn into anything more is the struggle most men have.

agreed

 

[SW15]

First dates are easy. For it to turn into anything more is the struggle most men have.

Mostly true. A lot of men are getting dates, especially if they swipe/text enough on dating apps or send a massive amount of DMs on Instagram. The problem often becomes having too many worthless interactions, like "one date, no sex, no second date" type interactions. Tech-based dating methods are a great way to arrange many low quality dates.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Mostly true. A lot of men are getting dates, especially if they swipe/text enough on dating apps or send a massive amount of DMs on Instagram. The problem often becomes having too many worthless interactions, like "one date, no sex, no second date" type interactions. Tech-based dating methods are a great way to arrange many low quality dates.

I dated a girl on Tinder who told me she liked s guy’s bio. But didn’t find him attractive. So they matched & went on a date. She said she told him up front. :’No kissing. No sex’. He still took her out to dinner & a baseball game.

 

[SW15]

I dated a girl on Tinder who told me she liked s guy’s bio. But didn’t find him attractive. So they matched & went on a date. She said she told him up front. :’No kissing. No sex’. He still took her out to dinner & a baseball game.

That guy has zero self-respect. No idea why the woman would waste her time either.

I asked out one woman and she claimed that she was in a relationship but would go for drinks at a bar with me as friends. I told her I didn't do male-female friendship and I passed on her offer. Why did I pass? I have self-respect.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

That guy has zero self-respect. No idea why the woman would waste her time either.

I asked out one woman and she claimed that she was in a relationship but would go for drinks at a bar with me as friends. I told her I didn't do male-female friendship and I passed on her offer. Why did I pass? I have self-respect.

She said his bio really intrigued her. She said they had a nice time snd had a great conversation. She got free food, drinks. a ballgame & nice conversation. A win for her.

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

Screw that. Been on hundreds of dates in the past 2-3 years. Probably met 2 girls that were GF material.

Innoncent/non-calculating eyes
Beauty
Kindness
Curiosity
Femininity

Extremely rare.

 

[BadWatermelon]

Mostly true. A lot of men are getting dates, especially if they swipe/text enough on dating apps or send a massive amount of DMs on Instagram. The problem often becomes having too many worthless interactions, like "one date, no sex, no second date" type interactions. Tech-based dating methods are a great way to arrange many low quality dates.

Sadly this has been my experience. Either that, or girls who flake/ghost me.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I don't 'date'. I do meet women around town and have drinks with them, but I'm not looking for a gf, so maybe that is why my experience is different.

 

[CornbreadFed]

I don't 'date'. I do meet women around town and have drinks with them, but I'm not looking for a gf, so maybe that is why my experience is different.

if you see the girl once a week, it’s dating

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

if you see the girl once a week, it’s dating

OK, women come over to my house for coffee, sex and rope bondage. You can call that dating, I call it polyamory relationships.

 

[CornbreadFed]

OK, women come over to my house for coffee, sex and rope bondage. You can call that dating, I call it polyamory relationships.

If it is once a week, it is dating

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

If it is once a week, it is dating

In that case I'm dating three women. The other two only come about once a month.

 

[CornbreadFed]

In that case I'm dating three women. The other two only come about once a month.

survive lol

 

[Hal9000]

She said his bio really intrigued her. She said they had a nice time snd had a great conversation. She got free food, drinks. a ballgame & nice conversation. A win for her.

Guy thought he could win her over with his charm. Can't really blame him for shooting his shot. It's not like sex, or even a kiss, is guaranteed on a first date anyway.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Guy thought he could win her over with his charm. Can't really blame him for shooting his shot. It's not like sex, or even a kiss, is guaranteed on a first date anyway.

I don’t know what I’d do if a girl told me this right out of the gate. But. My guess is this. guy had great game. If he could get a Tinder date on bio alone. That’s pretty good.

 

[Dr.Suave]

He still took her out to dinner & a baseball game.