MatureDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Interesting analysis of a Maury Povich "Who's the Daddy" episode
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wjh
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Roissy again...
Interesting. I don't watch Maury, but I can guess that the woman's reaction may have been to having BOTH men fail the paternity... not just the second guy. She may have reacted the same if the paternity initially revealed last was instead revealed first.
Her frustration, although seemingly directed at the men's lack of paternity is more than likely a deep-seated guilt and/or shame within herself.
It either takes an enormous amount of courage and humility or a total lack of awareness to have something so private aired so publicly.
Back to the point of Beta Providers... there may be indeed a real need for them, as it is difficult for people to raise children on their own. I don't think that this was the woman's primary concern. (If she were just looking for a provider, would have 'chosen' to get pregnant by someone stable financially, and easily accessible).
The fact that she slept with a minimum of 9 men within roughly a two week time period suggests she has far deeper issues. Is she raises her child, she will more than likely pass those issues on to it, unfortunately.
Sorry I got a little off topic. I stopped watching shows like these because it flustered me to know that I share the planet with people like this.
Her frustration, although seemingly directed at the men's lack of paternity is more than likely a deep-seated guilt and/or shame within herself.
It either takes an enormous amount of courage and humility or a total lack of awareness to have something so private aired so publicly.
Back to the point of Beta Providers... there may be indeed a real need for them, as it is difficult for people to raise children on their own. I don't think that this was the woman's primary concern. (If she were just looking for a provider, would have 'chosen' to get pregnant by someone stable financially, and easily accessible).
The fact that she slept with a minimum of 9 men within roughly a two week time period suggests she has far deeper issues. Is she raises her child, she will more than likely pass those issues on to it, unfortunately.
Sorry I got a little off topic. I stopped watching shows like these because it flustered me to know that I share the planet with people like this.
Luthor Rex
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If she felt guilt / shame, would she really be on TV broadcasting it to the world for an 8th time that she's a ho?pLaYtHiNg said:
Well maybe in woman-logic land she would...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.