"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi all. There is this gal in my class at college. Known her for a month now. I have talked to her without anything in mind, mostly general talk about studies and other activities. Helped her a bit with some stuff. We also did an homework together. Now a week ago there was an homework and she text me first for 3 consecutive days asking how I was and about homework. I ws kinda ignoring or replying late in short to her and this increased the texting from her, even calls. Anyhow, she helped me with the homework (over texts) and next day we had lunch during class break. During lunch, she brought up that she has a bf in her country since few years. But didn't seem sure about their future. Then she immediately asked if I had a gf. I told not right now. Next question, is it going in progress (I guess she meant if I am seeing someone)? I said yes (in the moment I was thinking about her actually haha!), she said well she hopes I get her. I replied you should be careful what you wish for lol. And she was like...why (with curious smile)

Moving on, later that day I text her to thank her for helping with the homework, to which she said I shudnt say thanks, I replied that then she isnt allowed to say it also. She did not reply to that and no contact from her after that, not even about the ongoing homework

So what do you guys think of the situation? Is she interested, is she waiting for my text now or should I contact her? How to make certain that she is interested
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hi all. There is this gal in my class at college. Known her for a month now. I have talked to her without anything in mind, mostly general talk about studies and other activities. Helped her a bit with some stuff. We also did an homework together. Now a week ago there was an homework and she text me first for 3 consecutive days asking how I was and about homework. I ws kinda ignoring or replying late in short to her and this increased the texting from her, even calls. Anyhow, she helped me with the homework (over texts) and next day we had lunch during class break. During lunch, she brought up that she has a bf in her country since few years. But didn't seem sure about their future. Then she immediately asked if I had a gf. I told not right now. Next question, is it going in progress (I guess she meant if I am seeing someone)? I said yes (in the moment I was thinking about her actually haha!), she said well she hopes I get her. I replied you should be careful what you wish for lol. And she was like...why (with curious smile)

Moving on, later that day I text her to thank her for helping with the homework, to which she said I shudnt say thanks, I replied that then she isnt allowed to say it also. She did not reply to that and no contact from her after that, not even about the ongoing homework

So what do you guys think of the situation? Is she interested, is she waiting for my text now or should I contact her? How to make certain that she is interested
Adding on to above, would she be thinking that I am actually interested in some other girl ? (refer to conversation above) Is that why she did not text me for 3 days now? Or is it just because she wants me to contact her?
 

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over thinking, ask her out and see what happens, btw that last text you send as really bad, but moving on
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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