Hey guys, long-time lurker, first time poster.
Here is my situation:
In the past three months, I've started hanging out at one of my friend's houses again. Since I've been back, there is a particular woman who hangs out there nearly everyday as well who appears to show interest in me, but is inconsistent as well. For instance, every time that we're around each other, which typically happens in a group of 3-8 people, she won't stop laughing at my jokes and constantly talks about how funny I am. After around a week or two of this, I sent her an IM and asked her if she was interested in hanging out at some point. She didn't respond, so I sent her the following, "I'm sorry, that was really dumb of me." She responded with, "What?! No it wasn't??" Later on that day I received a phone call from her (keep in mind, I hadn't given her my phone number) asking me to get her some "beverages." Prior to my message, she had never requested me to do this before. She picked me up and we had a fairly stimulating conversation there and back. The topic of me asking her out never arose, and there were awkward silences, but it wasn't too bad. I asked my friend, the owner of the house, what she had said about me. Apparently, she claimed I wasn't her type, but that I had good conversations with her. Following that instance, we didn't talk for two weeks, as she had left town. Upon her return, she was once again flirtatious and continued telling me how funny I was, and listened to every word I said when I was around. Whenever I didn't want to participate in activities that the majority of the group was doing, she would give me flack until I followed the herd. Furthermore, in a series of three days she IMed me twice asking if I could purchase her beverages again. She wanted the same type of drinks again, which was a very small order and almost not worth the trip. She also offered to provide me with a commission for every time I gave her the service. On the second trip, we stopped by her house because she was having an "anxiety attack," and proceeded to watch a television episode before departing. I told her that I didn't want things to be awkward around us because I had asked her out. She responded with, "I didn't think it was awkward at all. If I thought it was awkward, do you think I would be here right now?"
Anyways, She still continues to flirt with me, but I'm not sure of her motive. I can't tell if she is using me because of the services I provide, or if she uses these trips as an excuse to be alone together (as there isn't much space at given friend's house to be alone). She flirts with some of the other guys at the house a little bit, but gives the most attention to me. Anyways, what kind of insight would you guys provide to this situation? Sorry for the novel, and thanks in advance!
Here is my situation:
In the past three months, I've started hanging out at one of my friend's houses again. Since I've been back, there is a particular woman who hangs out there nearly everyday as well who appears to show interest in me, but is inconsistent as well. For instance, every time that we're around each other, which typically happens in a group of 3-8 people, she won't stop laughing at my jokes and constantly talks about how funny I am. After around a week or two of this, I sent her an IM and asked her if she was interested in hanging out at some point. She didn't respond, so I sent her the following, "I'm sorry, that was really dumb of me." She responded with, "What?! No it wasn't??" Later on that day I received a phone call from her (keep in mind, I hadn't given her my phone number) asking me to get her some "beverages." Prior to my message, she had never requested me to do this before. She picked me up and we had a fairly stimulating conversation there and back. The topic of me asking her out never arose, and there were awkward silences, but it wasn't too bad. I asked my friend, the owner of the house, what she had said about me. Apparently, she claimed I wasn't her type, but that I had good conversations with her. Following that instance, we didn't talk for two weeks, as she had left town. Upon her return, she was once again flirtatious and continued telling me how funny I was, and listened to every word I said when I was around. Whenever I didn't want to participate in activities that the majority of the group was doing, she would give me flack until I followed the herd. Furthermore, in a series of three days she IMed me twice asking if I could purchase her beverages again. She wanted the same type of drinks again, which was a very small order and almost not worth the trip. She also offered to provide me with a commission for every time I gave her the service. On the second trip, we stopped by her house because she was having an "anxiety attack," and proceeded to watch a television episode before departing. I told her that I didn't want things to be awkward around us because I had asked her out. She responded with, "I didn't think it was awkward at all. If I thought it was awkward, do you think I would be here right now?"
Anyways, She still continues to flirt with me, but I'm not sure of her motive. I can't tell if she is using me because of the services I provide, or if she uses these trips as an excuse to be alone together (as there isn't much space at given friend's house to be alone). She flirts with some of the other guys at the house a little bit, but gives the most attention to me. Anyways, what kind of insight would you guys provide to this situation? Sorry for the novel, and thanks in advance!
