Interested Or Friendliness?

[SouthSection]

Basically, there's this girl that has been giving me constant smiles during our college lectures and would say hey/wave if I saw her around campus. I never bothered approaching as I had a girlfriend and she eventually stopped even acknowledging me. Recently, I broke up with my girlfriend and got our mutual friend to give her my social media info, so she could follow me (I am on vacation, so couldn't do it myself).

Anyway, I sent her a message after she followed me on Wednesday and we started talking for a bit. Eventually the conversation topic went to this big college Christmas Eve party which is coming up in our city. Basically, all colleges in our state have come together to throw this massive party in the city.

We got to talking about how we both plan to go, but that we will probably end up going there solo due to our equally flakey friendship groups. She said that she will probably go with a family member as they won't flake and I joked that even my family members are flakes. She said, "Well if all fails you could always go with your girlfriend. I'm sure she would enjoy it." (She heard I had a girlfriend). I told her that I recently split up with her, she asked why, I said she just wasn't the right one for me. Then she said, "I understand. Well, if Team Flake are up to their flakey ways again, (I feel your pain), you could hang out with me at the party if you want to." I joked that I have high standards to uphold and that if she wants to hang with me at a party she has to be able to do a mean Cha Cha, since that's my forte. She said, "Lol. Cha Cha at this type of party? I can't make any promises but I'll try my best to keep up with you."

I told her I had to go to the gym and ended the conversation after that and we haven't spoke since. Would you say she's interested or was just being friendly? Should I message her before the party on Thursday, or just say nothing and see her there?

 

[Skyline]

Definitely interested.

 

[SoulMan13]

You say you never approached her as you had a girlfriend, right? So this conversation was your first interaction with her?

This definitely sounds like she's interested to me. The fact that she even followed you on social media first shows interest on her part. Then on top of that, she basically just ask you on a date. Notice how she said you can hang out with HER at the party. Not her and her family member/friends or whoever, JUST HER. Furthermore, when you brought up dancing with her (well done, by the way. Your text game seems pretty solid), she didn't blow you off and threw out an IOI.

This seems pretty clear cut to me. Since this was y'all's first interaction, you don't even know each other or consider each other friends. So ask yourself, how many girls do you know that invite guys that they don't know to hang out with them at parties and are receptive to dancing with them if they are not attracted? It seems like she has a pretty high IL to me. I personally wouldn't text her before the party. I would go on Thursday, flirt with her (don't focus all your time on her, though),make sure she has fun and try to K-Close before the end of the night. If you must text her, send one on the day of the party or the day before saying something like: "I hope you've been practicing that Cha Cha for me. I can't wait to see it today/tomorrow" Don't expect her to contact you first. Girls won't normally initiate until you've at least K-Closed or made a good in-person connection, which you haven't.

Good luck, all you have to do at this point is not mess up/

 

[RangerMIke]

Interested...... but let us know how things go.

 

[SouthSection]

You say you never approached her as you had a girlfriend, right? So this conversation was your first interaction with her?

This definitely sounds like she's interested to me. The fact that she even followed you on social media first shows interest on her part. Then on top of that, she basically just ask you on a date. Notice how she said you can hang out with HER at the party. Not her and her family member/friends or whoever, JUST HER. Furthermore, when you brought up dancing with her (well done, by the way. Your text game seems pretty solid), she didn't blow you off and threw out an IOI.

This seems pretty clear cut to me. Since this was y'all's first interaction, you don't even know each other or consider each other friends. So ask yourself, how many girls do you know that invite guys that they don't know to hang out with them at parties and are receptive to dancing with them if they are not attracted? It seems like she has a pretty high IL to me. I personally wouldn't text her before the party. I would go on Thursday, flirt with her (don't focus all your time on her, though),make sure she has fun and try to K-Close before the end of the night. If you must text her, send one on the day of the party or the day before saying something like: "I hope you've been practicing that Cha Cha for me. I can't wait to see it today/tomorrow" Don't expect her to contact you first. Girls won't normally initiate until you've at least K-Closed or made a good in-person connection, which you haven't.

Good luck, all you have to do at this point is not mess up/

Yes, it was my first interaction with her.

So I shouldn't expect her to initiate any conversations with me yet?