Interested in sweet girl on POF...how to play...

[Poonani Maker]

Ok, there's a 22 yr old fresh out of a "rich kid" type university. She's messaged me for the past 3 weeks. Her patterns of messaging me are flurry, then hold off for a week, then a couple here and there. We've already asked and answered a Lot of ?'s about ourselves. She knows what I do. I know what she does. She seems like that cute little cheerleader type, very girlie girl, which is what I'm always after. She messaged me Friday. I still haven't read it or responded because she waited a whole week to message last time. She knows I'm over a decade older than her, but she seems interested because of my stability, I guess, and I look good, and I say whatever I feel like typing. She just got a puppy. I have a hunch that she is interested in making a family, as am I. She's Christian. A lot of Christian girl go after guys that have money, and whoever their parents (thou shalt obey your mother and father) tell them what guy to go after. I'm constantly hounded by Christian parents trying to set me up with their ugly or health-maligned daughters.

So I think it's time to ask this one out. I believe that I need to do it in the next message. This back and forth has been going on for too long. She just seems like she should already have a boyfriend much younger than I. Maybe she is holding back something?

 

[Ice882]

"but she seems interested because of my stability, I guess, and I look good, and I say whatever I feel like typing."

This sentence is hilarious.

 

[Kailex]

Ok, there's a 22 yr old fresh out of a "rich kid" type university. She's messaged me for the past 3 weeks. Her patterns of messaging me are flurry, then hold off for a week, then a couple here and there. We've already asked and answered a Lot of ?'s about ourselves. She knows what I do. I know what she does. She seems like that cute little cheerleader type, very girlie girl, which is what I'm always after. She messaged me Friday. I still haven't read it or responded because she waited a whole week to message last time. She knows I'm over a decade older than her, but she seems interested because of my stability, I guess, and I look good, and I say whatever I feel like typing. She just got a puppy. I have a hunch that she is interested in making a family, as am I. She's Christian. A lot of Christian girl go after guys that have money, and whoever their parents (thou shalt obey your mother and father) tell them what guy to go after. I'm constantly hounded by Christian parents trying to set me up with their ugly or health-maligned daughters.

So I think it's time to ask this one out. I believe that I need to do it in the next message. This back and forth has been going on for too long. She just seems like she should already have a boyfriend much younger than I. Maybe she is holding back something?

3 weeks? WAY TOO LONG.
Don't WAIT for the right moment, just do it already.

Because if she knows TOO much about you know, she just might friendzone you or decide she doesn't want to go out with you at all.

And stop overthinking about what she should or should not have.

You haven't even gone out with her and you already have dream scenarios about her.

Just ask her out and see what happens. Measure her actions in person, not through email.

 

[handle]

what's with this forum and POF?

 

[scorpio1138]

you should have asked her out by the end of the first week.

 

[polok87]

So you are a decade older than this mammacita with a lot more life experience and yet you are acting like you would be privileged to have a date with her.

Wrong mindset. This post stinks of caring what she thinks, putting it all on the line for this one girl you haven't even met yet etc. Hell you are even pretty much already planning your life with this girl that you haven't even met yet!!!!! The dog, family chat was horrendous in your post by the way.

Firstly, why are you waiting 3 weeks. The two of you might not even get along in the flesh so what's the point in dragging it out. With online game your goal should always be to get the number asap after a decent convo then to try and arrange a meeting within a week.

Online game is a bit of a crutch and although I used it at first for confidence building there is no subsitute for meeting girls in the day/night. There are lots of girls on POF, I bet she is the only one you are contacting and thinking about. As you are online use it to your advantage and contact as many girls as possible. Don't focus on a girl you haven't even met yet and putting all your eggs in one basket.

 

[Poonani Maker]

There are lots of girls on POF, I bet she is the only one you are contacting and thinking about. As you are online use it to your advantage and contact as many girls as possible. Don't focus on a girl you haven't even met yet and putting all your eggs in one basket.

Not true, polok87. I can converse with a multitude on there. It's just that the majority of those fish look like this http://www.flickr.com/photos/envirolawman/257289811/

She's one of the few that would go good with my genes. Although I'm a good-looking guy (albeit getting older plus I work my ass off and the lines are starting show a little more but I don't care really as women really want money the most), I STILL have to go out of my way to contact girls "On" "Line" just as much I'd have to go out of my way to contact them in a bar or a club or the grocery store or "hired hands," waitresses, best buy, home depot, bed bath and beyond, whatever. In church, girls basically kick me and flirt with me without my having to go out of my way, I just show up.

I still haven't messaged or looked at this 22 yr olds messages in over a week because I've been too fvcking tired after work, and I don't really feel like typing to a female. I just want to eat, read, study languages, and go to bed on my new b!tchin airbed in my new b!tchin house, with soon to be new b!tchin painting and sh!t on the walls. I'm amping up.

 

[polok87]

Not true, polok87. I can converse with a multitude on there. It's just that the majority of those fish look like this http://www.flickr.com/photos/envirolawman/257289811/

She's one of the few that would go good with my genes. Although I'm a good-looking guy (albeit getting older plus I work my ass off and the lines are starting show a little more but I don't care really as women really want money the most), I STILL have to go out of my way to contact girls "On" "Line" just as much I'd have to go out of my way to contact them in a bar or a club or the grocery store or "hired hands," waitresses, best buy, home depot, bed bath and beyond, whatever. In church, girls basically kick me and flirt with me without my having to go out of my way, I just show up.

I still haven't messaged or looked at this 22 yr olds messages in over a week because I've been too fvcking tired after work, and I don't really feel like typing to a female. I just want to eat, read, study languages, and go to bed on my new b!tchin airbed in my new b!tchin house, with soon to be new b!tchin painting and sh!t on the walls. I'm amping up.

Can't say I agree with your take on women wanting money the most. Sure, rich guys get a lot of women but there are other underlying factors. Usually successful guys with plenty of cash are quite alpha male and have power but then there are plenty of rich guys that get zero action as a result of trying to buy girls.

Go good with your genes? Planning kids before even meeting someone. Come on, what if she had no personlity and was less good looking in the flesh.

Ok so you are always too tired after work etc. yet still ask if you should ask this girl out? If you were too busy to read her messages and ask her out surely you would be too busy to bother posting about what to do in the situation.

You don't have to go out of your way to meet girls online. It takes under a minute to type a message. I am not knocking online game as I have tried it myself but if you are meeting girls everywhere why are you so hung up on this one?

I don't mean to have a go it's just your first post and this post seem to be polar opposites. Bragging about your pad by the way is kind of try hard, it's mostly guys on this forum. Not sure who you are trying to impress.

 

[polok87]

Not true, polok87. I can converse with a multitude on there. It's just that the majority of those fish look like this http://www.flickr.com/photos/envirolawman/257289811/

She's one of the few that would go good with my genes. Although I'm a good-looking guy (albeit getting older plus I work my ass off and the lines are starting show a little more but I don't care really as women really want money the most), I STILL have to go out of my way to contact girls "On" "Line" just as much I'd have to go out of my way to contact them in a bar or a club or the grocery store or "hired hands," waitresses, best buy, home depot, bed bath and beyond, whatever. In church, girls basically kick me and flirt with me without my having to go out of my way, I just show up.

I still haven't messaged or looked at this 22 yr olds messages in over a week because I've been too fvcking tired after work, and I don't really feel like typing to a female. I just want to eat, read, study languages, and go to bed on my new b!tchin airbed in my new b!tchin house, with soon to be new b!tchin painting and sh!t on the walls. I'm amping up.

Can't say I agree with your take on women wanting money the most. Sure, rich guys get a lot of women but there are other underlying factors. Usually successful guys with plenty of cash are quite alpha male and have power but then there are plenty of rich guys that get zero action as a result of trying to buy girls.

Go good with your genes? Planning kids before even meeting someone. Come on, what if she had no personlity and was less good looking in the flesh.

Ok so you are always too tired after work etc. yet still ask if you should ask this girl out? If you were too busy to read her messages and ask her out surely you would be too busy to bother posting about what to do in the situation.

You don't have to go out of your way to meet girls online. It takes under a minute to type a message. I am not knocking online game as I have tried it myself but if you are meeting girls everywhere why are you so hung up on this one?

I don't mean to have a go it's just your first post and this post seem to be polar opposites. Bragging about your pad by the way is kind of try hard, it's mostly guys on this forum. Not sure who you are trying to impress.

 

[polok87]

Not true, polok87. I can converse with a multitude on there. It's just that the majority of those fish look like this http://www.flickr.com/photos/envirolawman/257289811/

She's one of the few that would go good with my genes. Although I'm a good-looking guy (albeit getting older plus I work my ass off and the lines are starting show a little more but I don't care really as women really want money the most), I STILL have to go out of my way to contact girls "On" "Line" just as much I'd have to go out of my way to contact them in a bar or a club or the grocery store or "hired hands," waitresses, best buy, home depot, bed bath and beyond, whatever. In church, girls basically kick me and flirt with me without my having to go out of my way, I just show up.

I still haven't messaged or looked at this 22 yr olds messages in over a week because I've been too fvcking tired after work, and I don't really feel like typing to a female. I just want to eat, read, study languages, and go to bed on my new b!tchin airbed in my new b!tchin house, with soon to be new b!tchin painting and sh!t on the walls. I'm amping up.

Can't say I agree with your take on women wanting money the most. Sure, rich guys get a lot of women but there are other underlying factors. Usually successful guys with plenty of cash are quite alpha male and have power but then there are plenty of rich guys that get zero action as a result of trying to buy girls.

Go good with your genes? Planning kids before even meeting someone. Come on, what if she had no personlity and was less good looking in the flesh.

Ok so you are always too tired after work etc. yet still ask if you should ask this girl out? If you were too busy to read her messages and ask her out surely you would be too busy to bother posting about what to do in the situation.

You don't have to go out of your way to meet girls online. It takes under a minute to type a message. I am not knocking online game as I have tried it myself but if you are meeting girls everywhere why are you so hung up on this one?

I don't mean to have a go it's just your first post and this post seem to be polar opposites. Bragging about your pad by the way is kind of try hard, it's mostly guys on this forum. Not sure who you are trying to impress.