"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Interest Vs. No Interest

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Okay, so there's this girl who is going to the same course as me.. And unless something in my mind is totally fvcked up, I think she likes me. In fact, I am completely surrounded by girls, all of which laugh at my every comment. But this one is the most obvious, actually turning her head back, looking at me, and laughing when I laugh to her. I would actually like some advice on this situation first and foremost, because I've been in this situation once when I was in grade 7, where a girl would be 'hooked' on making eye contact with me then laughing if I laughed.. But I never persued it, and so I don't know what to learn from it.

As well as this, she is okay.. I'd call her a 7.. But I'm just not interested. My attention focuses on 10s and 9s, call me superficial but I do go after personality.. Just the body is a requirement... Anyway, I try to ignore her "calls" as in the first paragraph, but I feel horrible about it! I know for sure, call it a gut feeling, that if I go and talk to her she'll definitely respond in a favourable way. The reason I haven't even spoken to her yet is because I don't want to further my relationship with her, but at the same time I can't find it in me to completely ignore her. It doesn't feel right..

It seems this has been a prevalent problem with me. Not so much giving women what they actually go and ask/test for, because I can pick up these things, they're on a much less deep level.. But with emotions.. Laughing especially, is it okay to not laugh at something you dont find funny, even if she's laughing or obviously wants to? My thoughts is it'll kill the moment, or the mood.. This paragraph's and the first's q's are in general (even tho the 1st paragraph is info. on the 2nd, there is a q there), and the 2nd is situation-specific.. No insult to your intelligence by posting this line as a disclaimer, I thought I wasn't being clear enough but I can't find the time to rewrite it all now. I'm going to be sitting into the course tomorrow, and I bet she'll be there.. I can't go another day torn like this..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pretty much just go for it if you think she'll respond well, and even if you aren't, you should still go for it. As for the "laughing if you don't find it funny" .. well I have situations like that, let me tell you .. it's akward. Usually I just smile and give a slight laugh and then bust on her for being so funny.

I dunno, works pretty good.
 
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She obviously likes you...

But you already knew that, and you knew it well before you came on this board to post about it. Inside I think your trying to downplay it and act like your not attracted to a HB7, however I think its because you would rather have the comfort of a moderately attractive girl liking you. Because you know that if you ask her out or something there is the small chance you judged wrong and she is just really friendly. If she was a HB9 or 10 then maybe it would be enough motivation to try and risk it. But with a 7 you would rather just keep it in your back pocket as a motivational booster.

I hate to possibly over-analyze you, but think about it. You obviously know she likes you, but you came on a forum related to girls and being a PUA, and asked how to almost ignore this girl who is showing you obvious IOI's and is a HB7. I mean think about it, if she was a HB2, then you never would have came on here and talked about, you just would have blown her off like any other girl you didn't find attractive, or you would have blown it off as her just being friendly.

I think you came on here because you wanted people to point out she was definiately interested in you in order to build your confidence in general with women. I am not criticizing you for boosting your confidence, cause we all NEED to do it once in a while, and its essential to succeeding.

Don't think of this as me flaming your or calling you out. Just think of it as me giving you the boost that I think you subconscious came here fore with this thread. And that boost is the boost that tells you to try to do something with this HB7, because although you might think you only want HB9 or 10's, I can tell you that you are going to regret not going after this HB7, both because it will be a good learning tool, and what the hell she is a 7, its not like she is 4 or something, its not like it would be painful, I mean a 7 is still hot. Its not like she has to be your girlfriend or something, just have a fling or something


SO GO AND GET IT ALREADY.
 
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