That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I did not sleep with her yet. As far as a relationship goes, she hasent been in a serious one in over 10 years. I do not know if she wants one or not and I don't yet want to ask. She never cancelled dates(yet) or any other tangible signs of low interest. I just sense her interest level is up and down. Maybe I am wrong. That's why I wanted to see what you guys thought.xblitz44x said:Have you slept with her yet? Has she conveyed any intentions yet (I want a relationship, I want to just keep it casual, etc)? Has she cancelled dates? Does she have drama/stress going on in other parts of her life that could be throwing her moods back and forth?
Who knows what her actual Interest Level is. My advice is to not bother trying to guess it. Make plans to see her when you want to see her. If she meets you, enjoy your time together and take it for what it is. Don't expect that she should behave this way or that way. Different girls have different ways of handling feelings for somebody. Until she disrespects you or it becomes a hassle to set up plans with her, proceed as scheduled.
xblitz44x said:Yeah I certainly wouldn't ask her what she wants just yet. She may be trying to tell you indirectly so keep your eyes and ears open.
Nobody except her can tell you where her interest level is. We can only try to interpret her actions but that is faulty in itself because every woman will react differently especially if there is something substantial going on in her life outside of your relationship.
My advice stands. Just keep enjoying your time with her and don't overthink it.... unless it comes down to it being a pain in the ass to get ahold of her, or she disrespect you, or you just flat out aren't into her anymore.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.