She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I did not sleep with her yet. As far as a relationship goes, she hasent been in a serious one in over 10 years. I do not know if she wants one or not and I don't yet want to ask. She never cancelled dates(yet) or any other tangible signs of low interest. I just sense her interest level is up and down. Maybe I am wrong. That's why I wanted to see what you guys thought.xblitz44x said:Have you slept with her yet? Has she conveyed any intentions yet (I want a relationship, I want to just keep it casual, etc)? Has she cancelled dates? Does she have drama/stress going on in other parts of her life that could be throwing her moods back and forth?
Who knows what her actual Interest Level is. My advice is to not bother trying to guess it. Make plans to see her when you want to see her. If she meets you, enjoy your time together and take it for what it is. Don't expect that she should behave this way or that way. Different girls have different ways of handling feelings for somebody. Until she disrespects you or it becomes a hassle to set up plans with her, proceed as scheduled.
xblitz44x said:Yeah I certainly wouldn't ask her what she wants just yet. She may be trying to tell you indirectly so keep your eyes and ears open.
Nobody except her can tell you where her interest level is. We can only try to interpret her actions but that is faulty in itself because every woman will react differently especially if there is something substantial going on in her life outside of your relationship.
My advice stands. Just keep enjoying your time with her and don't overthink it.... unless it comes down to it being a pain in the ass to get ahold of her, or she disrespect you, or you just flat out aren't into her anymore.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.