"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alright i've got one big inquiry about all the articles and techniques on this website and want to make something clear: all this stuff only applies when the ladies have an interest level of over 40% right? or are you supposed to boost it up from 5% to 95%?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Give us a 'specific' situation. What do you mean by stuff??
 

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i mean all the techniques offered by the website: talking to a girl in the mall, clubs, down the street. i mean the girl won't keep talking to you down the street if she doesn't have some little interest right? or is it supposed to work even the girl would rather die than talk to you?
 
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Yes, ahe obviously knows nothing about you, so I imagine she must have some interest in you to move forward, unless you can intrigue her with your wit, humor and/or charm!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I dont think so...

for example...im asian and let's say i decide to pull out a pick up in the mall but the girl im trying to flirt is not into asian guys...i don't think id be able to pick her up no matter how good id be with the system...so it HAS to be around 40% interest
 

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Personally I don't put forth much effort if the IL is below 70%. The time and effort for anything below that could be used finding women that are more interested. Also, the chance of turning around a woman with a IL below 50% is very slim.

Face it, if the chemistry isn't there right off the bat, what are the chances of it happening with you trying to force it. What if some woman who didn't turn you on tried forcing you to like her?

Just something to consider.
 
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Once you approach and you fail then move on, at least you did your job as a man!
 

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IL can be created! If the girl has no interest, using the dj system may not work, and you'll have to move on. But, PUAs & SSeducers can create a high IL even if the girl isn't interested initially.
 
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Huub, yes, but if only given enough time. Aprentice is talking about cold approaches where time is of the essence. She must have a 'little' interest to give you the time of day!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Exactly...so it's understood that you cannot pursue if there's no initial interest right?
 
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You don't know for sure if there is 'no' interest until you pursue.
 

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Point Taken

but we don't have to wait til we pursue right?
i mean if there's no eye contact or body language...
 
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