Interest Level booster...

[Ease]

What are you going to say? 'No, dont look after your kids because im insecure'?

There's only one thing you can say here buddy, 'yea whatever girl, text me when you get back'.

If she cheats, then she cheats and theres nothing you can do but find someone new. Power to you.

 

[Donnie Darko]

Why the fvck are you dating a low value woman with the baggage of an ex-husbands fvck trophy (aka "kid")

Go find better plates.

 

[vatoloco]

Things have been gping well for a while, but recently my gfs ex husband has invited her on holiday with her, as well as taking her child with them. She says she will go because she dosent trust him, and want to make sure their kid is looked after...

Well my friend, apparently it's not going so well for the reason in bold above. If this woman truly digged you, she wouldn't be going on a trip with an ex. The reason she's going is because she still digs the ex. It is 99.99999% likely that she's gonna fvck his brains out.

What I would do if I were in your shoes is tell her "Sure sweetheart, go ahead and go on your trip! We'll see you in a couple of weeks!" and then never contact her again. You are done with this woman. Unless of course, you want to keep being disrespected and treated like a chump.

And next time, don't get involved with women who are not over their exes. And especially avoid single mothers.

 

[Hyper2010]

I suppose things dont look very good..

I live an hour from her place, whilst he lives 10 minutes away so anything could pretty much be going on and I would have no idea. Also, recently we went without sleeping together for a month, and she states she does not please herself so it makes Me wonder how she has managed??

Also, I did let her control and dominate Me a lot during the beginning months of our relationship, ie Me spending money on her kid, paying for her car to be repaired (which I never got back) sending flowers to her workplace...so I do kinda guess its My own fault.

Bottom line though, am I paranoid/insecure at this setup? Or should I continue to trust her?

 

[boomerick]

Hy--

Single mom with close proximity possible f*ckbuddy ex......(strike one)

Months of headgames......(strike two)

She's going on the "Let's Give It One More Try" Hook-up Cruise with said ex.......(strike three....YOU'RE OUT !!!!!!)

GO READ ANTI DUMP!!!!!!....

NEXT!.......NEXT!!......NEXT!!!!

Spend your time developing your other better plates.......

Her p*ssy ........NO P*SSY........is worth your self respect!!!!!

Over and Out.

Verbal beatings from the "Make Her a FB" --- "P*ssy at All Costs" --- "Why Dump Out So Fast?" --- brigade begin in .....Three....Two....One.....

 

[Radharc]

Dump her before she dumps you when she returns from the trip, no explanations, no questions, nothing. Just dump her. At least you'll be able to salvage some self respect and she´ll be pissed because she was dumped.

I know you wont do it, but thats probably your best option at the moment.

 

[jophil28]

I suppose things dont look very good..

I live an hour from her place, whilst he lives 10 minutes away so anything could pretty much be going on and I would have no idea. Also, recently we went without sleeping together for a month, and she states she does not please herself so it makes Me wonder how she has managed??

Also, I did let her control and dominate Me a lot during the beginning months of our relationship, ie Me spending money on her kid, paying for her car to be repaired (which I never got back) sending flowers to her workplace...so I do kinda guess its My own fault.

Bottom line though, am I paranoid/insecure at this setup? Or should I continue to trust her?

She is getting as much of a buzz out of mindfvcking you are she is out of occasionally banging you.
She knows that you are willing to stay around and squirm on her hook on demand , and that 's why she does that. You are her entertainment now - you are her dancing monkey.

Going on holiday with the reason that it was to 'protect' her child was a crock of shyte. She just wanted to see and feel you squirm in a jealous rage. And then while she was away she also knew that you would work yourself up into an anxious state worrying about whether she was doing him..

Hyper, you are caught up in a mindfvcking can of worms with a woman who is compulsively driven to control all those around her and keep them dangling on her whims... Do you notice that she has two men circling around her pvssy ? Fools.

The giveaway signal that you have tangled with one of these shrews is always the gusher of sex which she pushes at you (for about 6 weeks to get you hooked), and then comes the distancing, the slow withdrawal of her attention, the confusing and contradictory statements which do not match her actions,and the demands that you accomodate her wishes.
When that seems to be working, and the guy sticks around (you), the mindfvcks start in earnest . The 'jealous' card is played. She becomes sharp and a little baitchy and then she covertly, and even overtly, mentions that she isnt "feeling it" anymore for you, BUT occasionally returns to some of the early funand sexy behavior just to keep you in the game for another week......

Well, you know the rest.
What do you do ?
Walk away - not another word. Just eject.
But I guess you want a solution that does not involve seeing things for what they really are.

 

[Hyper2010]

Conclusion

Overall, this is a classic case of shooting a girls interest level to s**t. In recent days it feels like I have to literally 'dig' to get communiation. Ie, i text her and she will text a one word answer 3-8 hours later. Back in the old days, when things were new and exciting I'd look at My phone and have 3 or more messages from her. Even if I went cold turkey with the No contact I think it is beyond a state of repair...

A useful experience to learn from though...

Better luck next time

 

[Hyper2010]

Turns out she has cancelled the trip...

Appears she changed her mind when I told her it was over if she did

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

So you realize you were in bed with a broad with no panties, and you weren't sure if she wanted you to make a move. Damn