Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
intelligence is a good thing. being a tool is not. just make sure if you're helping them with something, they're helping you with somethingOriginally posted by six-foot AZN '05
In school I'm one of the more mentally developed kids around and all the girls flock to me for hw help. Somehow everytime it feels like I'm being used like a tool. All the girls I know see me as a walking dictionary. How do I pull myself out of this hole?
Yep. Next time they ask you for something ask something from them as well. Its worked for me. For example ask them to help you with your own things(I mean you do have things to do don’t you?). AND AVOID being to easy to use, once in a while say a No(even if there isn’t any particular reason), that way you come out like a busy person, which you should be anyways. Oh and show your other qualities(that way they see your not just some dictionary, that your more than that), intelligence is a bonus but not the only thing you can have on your side.intelligence is a good thing. being a tool is not. just make sure if you're helping them with something, they're helping you with something
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What would be a "jock" sport? Basketball, maybe football?Originally posted by mikeb1205
one word my friend sports
You want to lose the nerd wrap pick up a ball and start practicing. now an intellegent jock, imagine the trim you would pull.
Here's a little "tool" you can use.Originally posted by six-foot AZN '05
In school I'm one of the more mentally developed kids around and all the girls flock to me for hw help. Somehow everytime it feels like I'm being used like a tool. All the girls I know see me as a walking dictionary. How do I pull myself out of this hole?
I tried that once...although I didn't think it through and had nothing to offer (other than the little sl*t going down on me), which her guy friend animated as my "payback from her".Originally posted by Chrisman
Here's a little "tool" you can use.
"What are you going to do for me?"