That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
intelligence is a good thing. being a tool is not. just make sure if you're helping them with something, they're helping you with somethingOriginally posted by six-foot AZN '05
In school I'm one of the more mentally developed kids around and all the girls flock to me for hw help. Somehow everytime it feels like I'm being used like a tool. All the girls I know see me as a walking dictionary. How do I pull myself out of this hole?
Yep. Next time they ask you for something ask something from them as well. Its worked for me. For example ask them to help you with your own things(I mean you do have things to do don’t you?). AND AVOID being to easy to use, once in a while say a No(even if there isn’t any particular reason), that way you come out like a busy person, which you should be anyways. Oh and show your other qualities(that way they see your not just some dictionary, that your more than that), intelligence is a bonus but not the only thing you can have on your side.intelligence is a good thing. being a tool is not. just make sure if you're helping them with something, they're helping you with something
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What would be a "jock" sport? Basketball, maybe football?Originally posted by mikeb1205
one word my friend sports
You want to lose the nerd wrap pick up a ball and start practicing. now an intellegent jock, imagine the trim you would pull.
Here's a little "tool" you can use.Originally posted by six-foot AZN '05
In school I'm one of the more mentally developed kids around and all the girls flock to me for hw help. Somehow everytime it feels like I'm being used like a tool. All the girls I know see me as a walking dictionary. How do I pull myself out of this hole?
I tried that once...although I didn't think it through and had nothing to offer (other than the little sl*t going down on me), which her guy friend animated as my "payback from her".Originally posted by Chrisman
Here's a little "tool" you can use.
"What are you going to do for me?"