Intellectual Question (and FR!)... Is it ever okay to ...?

[laxplayer]

whats up fellas. im at school right now - and am havin a pretty good time. i feel like im the king of my circle and the girls i surround myself with at least in my eyes are interested in me. if they arent i usually dont call waste of time i guess. im rushing in the spring and very much interested in fraternity life - its 1/3rd of hte population and after college they are the ones who seem to do pretty well - ivy league status.

maybe i want some advice too. i admit i love not having girls around just to have sex with but also i really like hte attention i get when i know every guy in the building wants to be me. it makes me walk with more of a ****ier swagger which in turn honestly gets more girls to **** you. i think joining a fraternity will help image too.

now i had a question, i went to a party and met this girl who at the beginning of hte night (not drunk) wouldnt talk to me. the drunker she got the more she said she thought i was full of myself etc and by the end of hte night she was literally hitting me telling me to take off my shirt etc. it was primal really - now i honestly dont think it would be the best thing for me to go after her b/c shes the kind who would need a b/f for her to putout ... i attract those kinds of girls - im not good with the 1 nighters i think it makes me look bad if that ever spread to the good girls so i always set myself up for dates where i can be seen if shes hot (not seen if shes not hot lol).

now i will see this girl 3 days a week in the spring cuz 2 hours at a time so honestly in the groups eyes (theres a lot of other really hot girls in the group in sororities, etc) i want to keep my options open.

i was thkning about CALLING her (even though she didnt give me her number) to maybe apologize to her for acting ****y. i think it would be good to build bridges maybe she might get the wrong idea but i would definitley like to screw with her head for a little bit. im sort of pissed too cuz she told the other girls im her's when i was talking to another girl. so i just want ot let her know i honestly am not into her like that and not be c0ckblocking me thats so gay.

 

[xiola]

sure, but make out that you are hurt. Put her on the defensive

b

 

[whistler]

For some reason I'd thought there'd be an intellectual question in there somewhere...
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[laxplayer]

fine ill phrase it like this

"is it ever okay to call or contact a girl when she hasnt given you her number? is there any situation where it might make you look cooler to do it than wait till the next time you meet than not?

also, is it advisable to use girls like this if you decide the best course of action wouldnt be to have sex with them? because face it when your with a group of people consistently over time you start having sex with one the others (not for lack of wanting to) wont because of their image. i just love having hot girls out with me different ones all hte time ...

 

[Chilli_pimp]

dude, ur story sounds weak, i dont believe you... you claim u have girls in ur face, but yet, ur having a problem with some chick thats angry with you for being ****y... and u want to apologize... wtf? not makin sense.. unless this girl is a jessica alba look alike, why don't u drop her, and bang the chicks who swarm u...

 

[laxplayer]

no youre right i should drop her doesnt make sense to keep her but i dont want her to take my ****y attitude to mean im hers ... i want all the other girls to know this too but honestly i just want to tell her whats up that wasnt cool i dont not want you liking me. **** like that will sorta make her go crazy which will be sort of fun

 

[christz]

sounds like borderline oneitis man..

who cares, its not like this chick knows your circle of friends move on, next time if a girl puts moves down on you like that, make a move or ACTUALLY move

simple

and EDIT : how will she think anything where is the rest of this story? how do you even know she's mad at you? or are you just anaylizeing the situation and thinking this. because if you are.. i don't think you have as many hot females buzzing around your nutz as you claim because if you did you wouldn't be catching the symptoms of oneitis

 

[laxplayer]

ewwww no way dude tonight me and this girl of eastern european descent went out (weve been out like 4 times) and she brought her twin sister along. not missing a beat i had my boy come down to take her off my hands turns out theyre both chill cool girls - her sister is in a sorority @ nwstrn. i convinced mine to come rush with me (her going to a sorority obviously)

this girl im thinking about so much because in the spring i will be seeing her 3 X week for 2 hrs at a time. this is our circle and i want to be the man of our circle. i sort of was upset when another girl said that im hers (the one who was all up on my stuff talkin mad sh$t.) she said sutff like 'you can handle me' etc. i mean dude i bet if i honestly wanted to i could go over to her dorm ( i think i know where she lives) and do it up - but should i ? i dunno man its starting to sound like a decent propositiion but DAMN i know it will hurt me in hte long run.

 

[xblitz44x]

There is nothing intellecutal about this thread.

a) Get a handle on your ego. It's stopping you from having a good time because you're so damn concerned with what everybody else is thinking. To truely be happy you have to unplug yourself from everybody else. Do your own thing, say your own thing, because you want to do and say it. Let everybody else deal with it.

b) If you want a relationship, go for that. If you want to have sex with this girl. Have sex with this girl. Girls talk shyt about how they will have to rope a guy into a relationship before they sleep with him but it's all bullshyt that they say to protect their reputations. When it comes down to it, college girls will fvck if they know you won't open your mouth, and you have some booze in their system. Don't count anybody out because of what you heard.

c) "when your with a group of people consistently over time you start having sex with one the others (not for lack of wanting to) wont because of their image"

Honestly, although girls might be a little weary because of your reputation of sleeping with a lot of girls, if you do it right, she will be intrigued by it. Work that angle, build her trust.

d) If you apologize you deserve to be bytch slapped. What you did was fine. She wanted you to take your shirt off so apparently she liked your attitude. Don't change for anybody.

You talk like you're a god around campus but you have work to do, grasshopper.

 

[laxplayer]

no you're right - sometimes i just feel like in order to fit in with the guys i always feel like i have to have hotter girls by me - my form of social validation i guess.

you might not know it but bro i used to be a 220 lb LOSER in high school - im now 165 5'11 and like i walk around knowing im the ****t - honestly some people dont agree that why i dont keep them around me. i got boys that will fight, i have girls that will have sex whenever - for me the game is sort of about power (im going to be a senator one day - my goal in life - i tell girls this too)

honestly i think that caring what people think holds you accountable for yourself. sometimes people only see you for a second before they judge you who they think you are etc. my goal in life is for everyone i come in contact with to like me as much as i like myself - not burning bridges is key.


like i said - the ONLY reason for me to apologize was to sort of give her the impression that hey im definitley out of her league. this could backfire she could end up liking me more but honestly it would get back at her and allow me to check out some of the other girls in the group. getting girls for me isnt the end all be all because honestly fat guys get girls (fat girls), but i just want to run **** and i think having hot girls (trophy) helps tremendously

wouldnt you think a guy was doing SOMETHING right who had a knockout on his arm? like im in school learning about how to make my millions ... im not looking for a girl to share them with right now ... just a fun time for college and maybe set me up for something big down the line

 

[xblitz44x]

Lax,

I can give you advice but not if you are ok with the fact that you desperately want, no NEED, people to like you. By using other people as a gauge, you will never be happy because you can never make everybody like you. All you can do is make you happy and if people around you like you, great. If not, fvck em'. We are all worm food potentially and I do not have time to give a shyt whether the girl I was dancing with thinks I'm "****y".

"the ONLY reason for me to apologize was to sort of give her the impression that hey im definitley out of her league. this could backfire she could end up liking me more but honestly it would get back at her and allow me to check out some of the other girls in the group"

I am calling bullshyt on this one. If the ONLY reason you want to apologize is so that you can show her that she doesn't have a chance with you, then you would have never even bothered creating this post about her. Second, if you apologize she's not going to like you more. She might thank you for being considerate but if you're making exuses for the way you are, it's going to be blatently obvious that you are doing it because you need her to like you. And you can't even deny this because you said yourself: "My goal in life is for everyone I come in contact with to like me...."

With that attitude get ready for a long life of compramising yourself for the sake of another's approval.

 

[laxplayer]

i have been thinking about her ... like whats so special abotu this girl why has she gotten me so worked up? is it oneitis? maybe - but since that night ive been out with 2 girls.

i know i cant live life having everybody like me - no one beats a dead dog. and it seems that the better you get, the higher on the food chain you get to - the more people try to bring you down.

she obviously tried to bring me down - with comments that night like 'your so full of yourself', 'you cant handle me', like i felt that this girl either liked me a lot and didnt know what to do or disliked me immensly. its the latter i dont want - as i keep saying in the spring (after winter break) i will see this girl 3 X week 2 hrs at a time! it doesnt make sense

if you advise me to go over to her dorm and try and put it down and promise her i wont tell anybody - i can do that. i think shed tell ppl before i did and this school is small man - rep spreads quickly. in the spring semester im hoping to run for SA (student assembly) and honestly i need all the friends i can get.

 

[xblitz44x]

I'm just saying that you should let things pan out as they will. I wouldn't stomp over to her dorm to come onto her either. When you see her, you can kick game to her again. Just don't go out of your way to do anything you wouldn't normally do. Be you and make no exuses for it.

If I had to guess, I'd say she's into you. If she thought you were ****y but didn't like you then she wouldn't give a shyt and wouldn't have opened her mouth to begin with. But you got to her. The problem now, though, is that she is NOT going to feed your ego. So you're going to have to somehow figure out a way to 'slip in under her radar'. This is going to require you to put yourself out there so that she sees that she can trust you enough for her to put HERself out there (thus feeding your ego).

Good luck.

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

She was drunk. Take everything she said and assume it was all an exxageration of her true feelings.

In my opinion, the root of all problems for your average AFC is that he is too quick to apologize when he has done nothing wrong.

she obviously tried to bring me down - with comments that night like 'your so full of yourself', 'you cant handle me', like i felt that this girl either liked me a lot and didnt know what to do or disliked me immensly.

How is that any different than what we do?

 

[laxplayer]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
The problem now, though, is that she is NOT going to feed your ego. So you're going to have to somehow figure out a way to 'slip in under her radar'. This is going to require you to put yourself out there so that she sees that she can trust you enough for her to put HERself out there (thus feeding your ego).

honestly like when it comes to girls i just assume they all are into me. the ones who pan out are the ones who usually do (but because im so ****y wont ever admit it) and the ones who dont i dont call or hang out with them. i kick game to ever girl i meet - i just figure hey im making her day either way right.

if i keep spitting game at her when i see her, wont she start getting weird messages? what if i start kickin game at OTHER girl where she can plainly see? and when i talk to her im just be a nice all around good guy - who doesnt want a thing from her (ill be honest shes about a 7+/8- and i wouldnt mind but).

blitz i think you know your game pretty well, im a 20 yr college kid who had nothing in high school (220 lbs, with a 2.0 gpa) to being a sophmore at an ivy league university. greek life is huge and come spring you know i want to join the best fraternity on campus - like i said i want to run it. girls can be useful tools - or is living like this a lie and i should aim to be another average joe?

ill listen to what you guys say im curious...

 

[thezenmachine]

How do you get into an Ivy league school with a 2.0 gpa in high school?

You are a psychopath....seriously, you sound like Ted Bundy when he was in college.

You need to figure yourself out instead of trying to build this fantasy world around yourself.

 

[blue17]

I have similar thoughts as thezenmachine. You care too much about how people think about you, and it's like you're trying to live an image of how people want to see you...as opposed to living how YOU want to live. You will become any personality you can as long as other people are satisfied.

 

[laxplayer]

nah dude i just worked hard at junior college - dude dont be bitter ill let you work for me one day.

your missing hte point man - oh well - blitz had some good thoughts at least

 

[blue17]

i'm not bitter at all lol, why would I even care? I'm just giving my input to try to help you.