"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Insulting a girl after breaking up!!!

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ok she called me and i snapped completely, i called her a hore, i said i never wanted to see her anymore, i hoped that she would die, i dont know maybe i need medical assistance... cuz how can i treat the girl i loved like this, but the fact is i did


i dont know what's happening with me, i'm nervous, i'm totally breaking apart, i said horrible things to her i couldnt even imagined i could... i feel bad


FUCCCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKK
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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hahah, it is fine. To be honest, the things you said were real, and should have be expressed in a prior date.

I really dont think that women will cause us all this pain from a relationship, if we accept that it is not working, and believe me, you will know. Once you feel it aint working in your gut, move on, because 9 out of 10 times she will feel the same thing.

Dont lie to yourself. If it aint working, it aint working.
 

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man i couldnt control myself i let my rage come to my head and i exploded, i couldnt control the rage ... she was asking for it
 

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there is nothing wrong with that. Honestly. I would not even lie to you. But for the future, you will know when the relationship aint working, so instead of waiting it out, and building up all the stem and exploding, just call it quits. All that anger aint good for ya health or ya wealth....ya feel me. Hhaha.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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she dumped me in the day we were doing 11 months, she treated me like a cold ***** in front of all people in the street, i asked her to gimme a min to explain what was happening and she said she had other perspectives for her life in which i wasnt included and then with a icy i had to go home, dont have time to talk right now. this i wont forget for many time
 

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You lost your cool.

No need for that,if she calls again(doubtful if you said you hope she dies)keep calm and tell her that you two are quite obviously finished,you don't see any point in being friends or there's nothing that needs to be said or discussed.
Wish her well in the future then say goodbye.
 

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Ted while that is great advice, he should just stay away from her. She knows the amount of influence she has on his emotions, so all she will do is try and provoke him or upset him more. He just needs to stay away from her, or, haha, or, that bytch probably will be laid up in I.C.U. after NoMoreAFC gets done with her. Hahahah.
 

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You know what is the best approach for girls who go cold on you?

Go SubZero on that ass.

When she drops the bomb and is like "Oh, I dont know if we should see each other anymore" or some other BS, you play it cool as Mr. Freeze and say "Really? Wow...I guess you are right.. all good things must come to an end. (thoughtful pause) Ah well, at least we've had a nice run. Hope everything works out for you." smile, give her a peck on the cheek and then walk away

My bet is that she wont let you get very far! :p

I have had 3 ex's begging for me to come back. I did every time, only to tell them a week later..."You know, I've been thinking ... about us...."

haha..it's fun to be evil!
 

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man stfu and dont ask if what you did was right....You exploded, it was an instinct...instincts are always right, always follow them and if you do something by instinct dont apologize.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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On Seinfeld there was an episode where a girlfriend of Jerry decided to break up with him and this is how he reacted:

Jerry : I'll tell you what the big advantage of homosexuality is. If you're going out with someone your size, right there you double your wardrobe.

Rachel : I suppose...

Jerry : Oh, come on, that's a huge feature. When they approach a new recruit, I'm sure that's one of the big selling points.

Rachel : Jerry ...

Jerry : Yes?

Rachel : I've been doing a lot of thinking.

Jerry : Aha?

Rachel : Well, I don't think we should see each other any more.

Jerry : Oh, that's okay.

Rachel : What?

Jerry : Nah, that's fine. No problem. I'll meet somebody else.

Rachel : You will?

Jerry : Sure. See, things always even out for me.

Rachel : Huh?

Jerry : It's fine. Anyway, it's been really nice dating you for a while. And ... good luck!

Rachel : Yeah, you too.
The lesson: Be cool my friend always try to be cool no matter what life throws at you.
 

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DJDamage, the Seinfeld reference is SPOT ON!

But NMAFC, here's the deal:

You're gonna have to learn how to be cool and control your emotions. DJs never let a woman affect them that way.

Trying to achieve this inner control is very difficult though. I can understand why you went into a rage. Do not apologize to her.

Erase her from your life and do what Jerry Seinfeld does: keep on living because things will eventually even out.
 

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Originally posted by Don Ronny
You know what is the best approach for girls who go cold on you?

Go SubZero on that ass.

When she drops the bomb and is like "Oh, I dont know if we should see each other anymore" or some other BS, you play it cool as Mr. Freeze and say "Really? Wow...I guess you are right.. all good things must come to an end. (thoughtful pause) Ah well, at least we've had a nice run. Hope everything works out for you." smile, give her a peck on the cheek and then walk away

My bet is that she wont let you get very far! :p

I have had 3 ex's begging for me to come back. I did every time, only to tell them a week later..."You know, I've been thinking ... about us...."

haha..it's fun to be evil!
Haha thats golden bro, great way to reverse it around onto them. Cheers, I will use that should I need it.
 

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If you go berserk when a girl dumps you, you'd be like those stalker chicks who key a guy's car after he dumps her.

Stalker chick! :crackup:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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thanks for your help guys really :)


i'm not an aggressive person in any way, but something made me react that way, well it happened ill try not to loose my cool next time :)
 

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I know there are many immature girls who will dump a bf out of the blue, especially the young ones. But did your girl not give ANY cues as to (pardon the Doc Love reference) her IL? If she had, you could have dumped her first...

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you should've agreed with her
(even though deep inside you'll be tearing away)

kept a smile on your face
(masking the frown that will come later with tears)

and you should have walked away
(even though you might have wanted to beg to her and ask "WHY WHY WHY!!")

See, in these situations, you have to do the OPPOSITE of what your heart wants you to do.. you know, beg, cry, asking why, express feelings of loss, etc.

DO THE OPPOSITE!

You told her off... you should've done the opposite, or just hang up on her. (Girls hate being hung up on, because they love to do it)
 

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she did gave clues but only now that i think of it i understand why she wouldnt touch me anymore, wouldnt want to be with me so many times, would do go to public places when back then she would like private places.
 

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Take my advice.

DOn't do what i did with the last one. I FVCKING CRIED IN PUBLIC. I COULDN"T HELP IT, I WAS STRESSED OUT THOUGH, because of other **** that happened with me like moving and starting a new career.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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