"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BeTheChange

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Seem to be getting this a lot recently with the younger women, especially off Tinder.

Almost every hit, young (19 - 25) chick I chat to on tinder asks me this at some point. Also had this from women I've cold approached whose numbers I've got and started texting.

I understand their reasoning. Instagram is an easy way to get a window into someone's life and assess a guy's "value".

From my perspective though it's a pain in the ass. Often once I say I don't have it the conversation goes dead, as if I'm some kind of social outcast. From my POV I just can't be bothered with another social media account since I already use snapchat sparingly. That's enough for me.

Honestly thinking of just saying "fvck it" and downloading the thing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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El Payaso

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She probably just wants another e-orbiter to notch up her follower count.
 

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She probably just wants another e-orbiter to notch up her follower count.
You wanna be an e-orbiter OP? I don't have Instagram at all. Nor do I use Tinder.

Men win when sex happens. Women win when attention happens.
 

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Often once I say I don't have it the conversation goes dead, as if I'm some kind of social outcast.
Men who don't have Instagram ARE social outcasts to younger women who use Tinder. Young chicks from Tinder dream of meeting a hot guy who has tons of social proof via social media. 9/10 they will disappear once you say you don't have iit after they've asked.

Honestly thinking of just saying "fvck it" and downloading the thing.
If you're the kind of guy who doesn't have Instagram already then that might not be a good idea unless you build it first or have a few friends who use IG and be willing to help. The only thing worse then having no Instagram is having an account without followers or interaction.
 
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