"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Instagram stories...a powerful tool!

DreamAgain

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So, I used to be a basher of social media, but this latest tactic has been working for me.

When going out, it seems women are much more open to following you/each other on instagram then giving out numbers. This makes sense, as it is a rather passive thing to do, and is seen as more "casual".

Lately, of these prospects that I've exchanged insta with, we would first like each other's pictures here and there...and then I would post some interesting stories of me and out of nowhere...they would initiate the convo and it was game on.

Afterwards, setting up logistics for a meetup is usually easy, but what I want to say is, while direct number closing is the preferred and best method, this alternative route is surprisingly good too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So, I used to be a basher of social media, but this latest tactic has been working for me.

When going out, it seems women are much more open to following you/each other on instagram then giving out numbers. This makes sense, as it is a rather passive thing to do, and is seen as more "casual".

Lately, of these prospects that I've exchanged insta with, we would first like each other's pictures here and there...and then I would post some interesting stories of me and out of nowhere...they would initiate the convo and it was game on.

Afterwards, setting up logistics for a meetup is usually easy, but what I want to say is, while direct number closing is the preferred and best method, this alternative route is surprisingly good too.
Did you bang any of these chicks?
 

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My understanding behind it is women use IG as a tool to show you what THEY are into, hoping you will do some homework and give you ideas on what to ask them about stuff they are into.

Now whether or not a woman actually reciprocates, who knows.
 

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My understanding behind it is women use IG as a tool to show you what THEY are into, hoping you will do some homework and give you ideas on what to ask them about stuff they are into.

Now whether or not a woman actually reciprocates, who knows.
Women use it for validation...that's it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sorry, I dont agree that IG is a tool for getting laid.

Its a tool for the woman who is posting 2 selfies a day and making her life look like the rich and famous when in actuality she is on WIC, HUD, gets a free medical card and lives in a trailer park.

All because.......

She wants attention.

Its a black hole to suck you into with her other 400 orbiters who all actually think they will nail her, and of course all are wrong.

I have gotten laid from Fb, Tinder, Bumble, POF, Match, The mall, getting my hair cut, grocery store, etc etc etc.

Nobody is getting laid from IG. Just tricked into thinking they will.
 

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Instagram is a sad playground for thirsty AFCs, orbiters, and ex's that will hand out validation and attention for free.

These guys will tap hearts on all her selfies and proclaim how beautiful she is in every single pic she uploads. It's disgusting. Some will DM her, asking curious questions hoping for a date.

If she's bombarded with offers, she's going to be selective.

I think your mileage will be more reliable in social proof / social circle game.
 
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