"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Insights on interest?

BlueFlyer

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It seems I want to pursue other women when she and I are in the mode of hanging out but lose interest in it when we are not. Has anyone encountered this too? Any insights on what it might mean? Thanks for any thoughts.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BlueFlyer said:
It seems I want to pursue other women when she and I are in the mode of hanging out but lose interest in it when we are not. Has anyone encountered this too? Any insights on what it might mean? Thanks for any thoughts.
Kind of a vague and confusing post- more details might help.
 

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Sorry, let me try to add some clarity. When the woman I've been dating and I are in relationship mode, I tend to think of other women. But when we are no longer seeing each other, I don't seem to want to pursue other women. It's almost like a switch flips. I don't know what to make of it but it sure makes discerning my true feelings tricky. Just wanted to know if anyone had experienced this and/or if anyone might have some insights. Thanks again.
 

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Demodulate said:
easy...

people want what they cant have...
Yep ^
You are suffering from a bad case of wanting greener grass.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dear Blue Flyer,
While Jophil is driving his big Ford F110,he yearns to be at the wheel of his Shiny New Caprice......Didn't Granny tell you,you can't have your cake and eat it also?
 

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Scaramouche said:
Ford F110,he yearns to be at the wheel of his Shiny New Caprice.
Do they even make those right hand drive? :up:
 
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