Insight/Guide on Flirting

[Skyline]

Recently the topic of flirting has come to my attention. I actually stopped doing this because I was given word that it was AFC; but it really isn't if done correctly. So lately I've been relearning it in real life. It's hard to explain and I can understand why since it usually happens naturally without you even noticing it. I've decided to make a thread to share the insight that I have over flirting on how you can make it happen and how you can detect it. I will be adding descriptions of what is going on behind the curtains.

Now, most of my experience with flirting is through messaging online/text. I don't message or text often anymore for personal reasons, but I do still have all of those successful flirting messages before I went AFC and ruined everything. Don't let this experience phase you, flirting is universal, however it does have its pros in person such as body language.

Now, there are TWO types of flirting.

Took me a while to realize this, but yes there is two.

First type.

I wouldn't even label this as flirting, it's simply a mixture of teasing, being playful, and sarcasm. Most guys don't even realize they're even flirting. The conversation can literally start out to be ANYTHING. See below :


Example 1: (Actually happened)
Me: Hey
HB: Hey
Me: You should make it rain it's nice out.
HB: Yeaa I want it to rain so bad..
Me: Start doing the rain dance then (smirk and or in a non serious tone)
HB: What? (unless shes a stone or hates you she'll at least chuckle)
Me: You're deaf and can't dance what a surpriiiise (smirk and or in a non serious tone)

In this example I started out by greeting her obviously. I then proceeded to use my surroundings and asked a ridiculous/silly question/request. Now regardless of what she said, I did not take her seriously. I proceeded with playfulness and kept up the charade. Regardless if she reciprocates or half ass reciprocates, keep going. Only the up tight ugly ones will tell you to "stop."

Example 2: (Happened but with different text)
HB: You're sooo dumb
Me: Takes a genius to understand one
HB: Yeaaah which you aren't
Me: You're right I'm the one who teach's geniuses
HB: Oh so that's why you're single huh
Me: Well most girls can't handle someone above a genius...
HB: Riiiight...
Me: You always agree when you get nervous (fake laugh or real laugh, I smirked which worked too)
HB: No i dont!

I consider this flirting and if you took her seriously, you failed.

The girl in the example is displayed as pushing my buttons(Sh*t testing). Displaying indifference and flipping the script can completely disarm flirting like this. They key is to bring up completely yet somewhat relevant random opinions/facts about you or her and use it against her. You can then use previously stated statements in your new choice of text. This creates a dynamic word choice and pattern that she can't follow and results in you looking like a bad ass.

Example 3: (Similar event happened)
Me: Hey
HB: Hey
Me: Whats up?
HB: Nothing much you? (hate this response :trouble
Me: Talking to a boring girl is whats up
HB: oh..? (or some confused response or none at all)
Me: Wait you think you're boring? (laugh, fake laugh whatever)
HB: What?
Me: I didn't know you viewed yourself as boring i mean I thought you were exciting at the least bit (smirk)
HB: of course not! (or some defensive reply, or hell she may even play back a little)

This is what known is as the "Awkward Silence type." The best strategy after her saying "Nothing much you?" would of been to use your surroundings and make it a playful topic. However that doesn't always happen for whatever reason so this is an example of that moment. The method in this example is to basically say whatever it is you're thinking about her at the moment. Don't make it too harsh and as long as you turn it into something playful you'll get a positive response most of the time. This one requires a lot of creativity and confidence as you're basically insulting her and starting a conversation from nothing.

That concludes us with the first type of flirting.



As you can see, all of the flirting that happened in the text were all friendly and non sexual. Some might say this is a road to the friend zone, this will only happen if you're not using kino, you develop oneitis for her, and if you don't proceed to the Second type of Flirting. This "friendly" flirting is actually pushing her buttons and she's actually subconsciously testing yours. If you can do this successfully, then you're ready for the Second type of flirting.

Second Type:

Now this type is actually the classical flirting. Meaning it's all hinting toward something sexual or arousing. Most guys f*ck up right here. They go STRAIGHT to the second type without developing the comfort from the first type. I mean some girls can go straight to this stage, but that won't always work. Now if you have developed the proper comfort from the First type of flirting then you can EASILY transition to the Second type.

Example 1:
Me: Hey
HB: Hey
Me: You should make it rain it's nice out.
HB: Yeaa I want it to rain so bad..
Me: Start doing the rain dance then ---> Yeaah you always liked it wet (smirk and or in a non serious tone)
HB: What? ---> Oh definitely (usually sarcasm)
Me: You're deaf and can't dance what a surpriiiise ---> Don't lie.. you lay naked in your backyard when you get out of the shower for the "thrill" (smirk and or in a non serious tone)

You're basically turning all of your replies from innocent to sexual. Be aware, you can easily go to far doing this resulting in her being turned off by it. Always HINT towards something sexual, never be DIRECT(Unless she's practically asking for it of course). If you go to far, you can always call her out on having a "dirty mind" and resort to the safer First type of flirting.

Example 2:
HB: You're sooo dumb
Me: Takes a genius to understand one ---> I swear you say that to all the guys you're attraced to.
HB: Yeaaah which you aren't ---> Well that may just be the case...
Me: You're right I'm the one who teach's geniuses ---> Well I think I'm too much for you to handle...
HB: Oh so that's why you're single huh ---> Try me
Me: Well most girls can't handle someone above a genius... ---> (This is basically an invitation for you to either continue the flirting or go somewhere private)

This example displays what would happen in a situation from which you were sexually escalating and she is reciprocating positively. This is usually the "conversation" that happens right before you're about to get down. If you really want to mind fvck her, you can always pull the "You have such a dirty mind" then make up some excuse for those comments.

Example 3:
HB: Hey
Me: Hey
HB: Whats up?
Me: Nothing much, My shoulders hurt a bit though.
HB: oh..?
Me: Yeah, do me a favor and give me a massage
HB: No thanks, I'm comfortable right here
Me: You're only comfortable because I'm here... (smirk or chuckle)
HB: Noo yesterday I was comfortable on my couch.
Me: Yeah because you were texting me at the time. Face it you're only chill when I'm around (smirk)
HB: My hands aren't even soft
Me: They're soft for me and I can be pretty rough
HB: Oh yeah right you wouldn't hurt a fly
Me: (At this point you can pretty much use actions to lead the way or continue with the banter)

The idea in this one is the transition from friendly flirting into sexual flirting. This process can take a lot longer but it is the safest if you don't know whether or not she's ready for a more direct route like the other two edited examples.

As you can see, flirting is meant to be playful. Not serious. Flirting alone will only get you so far unless you lead physically. Combining DJ techniques such as kino, (fake) warmth, and leading, flirting is then an excellent addition to ones arsenal. Flirting can also replace the Humor technique by making it seem like you're funny when you're really just pushing her buttons. Effective flirting does require charisma, confidence, indifference, and a bit of creativity but the results are worth it. Just remember, some girls flirt just to tease/get attention from you.

This concludes my general idea about flirting, I had this all in my head and it feels nice to have it written down. All thoughts are welcome.

 

[Eph]

Interesting enough, I've been doing this with a couple female "friends" lately. At first, I didn't do the second type of flirting with them and kept things innocent but playful. Mostly because they were playing "innocent" :crackup:. More recently, they've started cursing around me and I moved on to the second type of flirting. Up until now, I've been doing this unconsciously. Keeping things playful (but getting serious when need be) has kept our "relationship" bearable.

 

[Skyline]

Interesting enough, I've been doing this with a couple female "friends" lately. At first, I didn't do the second type of flirting with them and kept things innocent but playful. Mostly because they were playing "innocent" . More recently, they've started cursing around me and I moved on to the second type of flirting. Up until now, I've been doing this unconsciously. Keeping things playful (but getting serious when need be) has kept our "relationship" bearable.

Build up that comfort first and it's almost guaranteed you can move onto the second type. The success rate of this is pretty high too.