Flex Luther
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I wanted to post my story as my first thread, but with the intention of questioning where the line is to be drawn between acting insecure and jealous, and dealing with a disrespectful woman like a true alpha.
This is a long story but I will try and condense it as much as possible.
I met this girl/woman when I was a 19 year old college student, (now 23), she was a staff member at the college, 27 (now 31) and easily a 10 in my eyes, we got to know each other, even as an AFC I still possessed enough game for that! however, nothing progressed due to the circumstances, i.e professionalism and I left, to pursue my dream career 250 miles away.
4 years later, (last summer) I send her a random email, whilst spinning a few plates, she replied gave me her number and suggested we meet, using the advice on sosuave.com etc, I new exactly what I wanted and how to go about it, turned into the best date ever and ended up in her bed the following morning (high fiving myself)!
We continued to see each other over the summer, casually sleeping together, with me in full control as the prize, when September came and with it the first term of my 3rd year at uni (4 year masters), we decided, or rather I did, that we should try the LDR option as her interest level was sky high she agreed and I came home every two weeks ish for a couple of months. Her IL grew to the point of I love yous and I miss yous and I cant stop thinking about yous.. until the end of November when I acted somewhat beta, i.e too much supplication and too little leadership. She became silent, didn't return calls texts etc. I realise my mistake was thinking that indifference was a good approach, when I should have called her on disrespecting me, when I did, I sent an email basically outlining that I wont put up with this sh*t and that I don't have time to wait for her .
In the meantime I slept with another girl and moved on.
She responded a week later detailing her apology and that she wanted us to be together, this was around xmas. I came home anyway for the holidays and we met again, decided to date her and save the confrontation until I was due to go back.
All worked out ok, I put it on the line and was willing to walk away unless she played by my rules, she agreed and said she wanted a deeper connection with me, something more than we have now, whatever that means :/
since then it feels ok, but ok only, her IL is not in the high bracket, although much higher than it was. My problem is that she lost my trust and this is extending somewhat to her home life, (she lives with her lodger a single male of a similar age to her). In most cases I would not give two sh*ts, but she has never been keen on me spending time at her place, we usually stay in hotel rooms when I come home, reason for this was that previous lodgers including this one, were not allowed to bring people over and it was only fair that neither was she, however, she let slip that he f*cked two women in her house last week, I didn't respond to this any further than an initial 'its ok for him to bring girls back then?' as i thought it would appear insecure and needy on my part.?
Apologies for the length any comments would be appreciated, i can kind of guess the consensus already lol
This is a long story but I will try and condense it as much as possible.
I met this girl/woman when I was a 19 year old college student, (now 23), she was a staff member at the college, 27 (now 31) and easily a 10 in my eyes, we got to know each other, even as an AFC I still possessed enough game for that! however, nothing progressed due to the circumstances, i.e professionalism and I left, to pursue my dream career 250 miles away.
4 years later, (last summer) I send her a random email, whilst spinning a few plates, she replied gave me her number and suggested we meet, using the advice on sosuave.com etc, I new exactly what I wanted and how to go about it, turned into the best date ever and ended up in her bed the following morning (high fiving myself)!
We continued to see each other over the summer, casually sleeping together, with me in full control as the prize, when September came and with it the first term of my 3rd year at uni (4 year masters), we decided, or rather I did, that we should try the LDR option as her interest level was sky high she agreed and I came home every two weeks ish for a couple of months. Her IL grew to the point of I love yous and I miss yous and I cant stop thinking about yous.. until the end of November when I acted somewhat beta, i.e too much supplication and too little leadership. She became silent, didn't return calls texts etc. I realise my mistake was thinking that indifference was a good approach, when I should have called her on disrespecting me, when I did, I sent an email basically outlining that I wont put up with this sh*t and that I don't have time to wait for her .
In the meantime I slept with another girl and moved on.
She responded a week later detailing her apology and that she wanted us to be together, this was around xmas. I came home anyway for the holidays and we met again, decided to date her and save the confrontation until I was due to go back.
All worked out ok, I put it on the line and was willing to walk away unless she played by my rules, she agreed and said she wanted a deeper connection with me, something more than we have now, whatever that means :/
since then it feels ok, but ok only, her IL is not in the high bracket, although much higher than it was. My problem is that she lost my trust and this is extending somewhat to her home life, (she lives with her lodger a single male of a similar age to her). In most cases I would not give two sh*ts, but she has never been keen on me spending time at her place, we usually stay in hotel rooms when I come home, reason for this was that previous lodgers including this one, were not allowed to bring people over and it was only fair that neither was she, however, she let slip that he f*cked two women in her house last week, I didn't respond to this any further than an initial 'its ok for him to bring girls back then?' as i thought it would appear insecure and needy on my part.?
Apologies for the length any comments would be appreciated, i can kind of guess the consensus already lol
